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I have noticed this for 2-3 times after getting fingered alot ..(not really alot) but for a little longer than usual . When the fingering stops i feel so exhausted and i get tears in my eyes and kind of a bit but scared inside and really panicked internally. I dont know how to express it perfectly but i just get teary.... i really want to know why does this happen!?
Also here im talking about getting fingered by my partner.. and the time duration can be maybe around 4-5mins i assume.

Hi there,
Do you mind sharing a bit more about what you mean by “tears in your eyes” and the feeling of panic? Do the tears feel more like an involuntary physical response or more similar to an emotional response? Being fingered, and having sex in general, can be intense both physically and emotionally, so it’s not surprising that it could cause you to tear up! It matters more though if you feel unhappy afterwards. Can you talk more about what you mean when you say you feel panicked?

Its not because i feel unhappy . Its kind of involuntary. As soon as the fingering stops i realise i am too exhausted and after taking 1-2 deep breaths i realise i have tears in my eyes. Also about the panic thing im not sure if the panic feeling is a strong feeling ... its like i get really exhausted and whixh leads to a bit of internal panicking.... i hope this makes sense and you understand what im trying to explain.

Hi Girll18,

From what you're describing it sounds like it may be the kind of intense response Emily mentioned above. Do you have a sense of why feeling exhausted leads to panic?

I feel it is because like the fingering is going on intensely and once it stops my body suddenly feels too tired and my heart races and I am out of breath. Maybe that is the reason of the panicking i guess.

Also after the fingering as i said i get exhausted and have tears in eyes ........the 1st time it happened and as soon as my partner noticed that i was out of breath he hugged me which really made me feel alot calm from inside but the tears still go on for a lil bit and i really think i have no control over those tears they r like really involuntary and i do realise it in the moment that i have tears in my eyes but it takes me 2-5 mins to stop.

It almost sounds like your brain and body are interpreting the signals from arousal or orgasm, like increased heart rate or heavy breathing, as panic. It might help to remind yourself, if you can in the moment, that what you're feeling isn't a sign of anything bad or wrong, and is instead a pretty natural sequence of responses to arousal.

So you mean this tears and exhaustion n such feelings are because i was close to having an orgasm?

There's no way to know *for sure*, but yes, they might be. It'd be your body's natural response to the intense feelings of that moment.

Okay i get it... also can you give me some suggestions to have an orgasm if I've never had one before?

Girll18 wrote: ↑Fri Mar 11, 2022 1:31 pm Okay i get it... also can you give me some suggestions to have an orgasm if I've never had one before?

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Thanks alot♡♡♡

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