i don't think i enjoy masturbating anymore.

[jinijin]

hello, i am 19 and i dont think i enjoy masturbating anymore. come to think of it, i dont think i ever truly enjoyed masturbating nor had an orgasm of some sort. when i try to masturbate, i just get wet but i dont really feel the pleasure i am looking for when i touch myself. porns dont help either as there isnt much female-centered/female-directed porns out there. what do you think i should do?

[Carly]

Hi jinijin -- welcome to Scarleteen! There are actually a lot of different ways to masturbate, and it sounds like whatever you've been trying isn't quite working for you. Nothing feels the same for everyone. Are you primarily masturbating by touching your genitals? Have you ever used a vibrator?

[jinijin]

hi carly! thank you for answering, and sorry if didn't get to reply immediately. yes, ive only masturbated by touching my genitalia and i havent tried anything else aside from that. we dont have anything like a vibrator or any self-pleasuring paraphernalia in our household since i live in a pretty conservative environment. can this be solved?

[Sam W]

Hi jinijin,

If you're open to trying sex toys, this article has a lot of advice on ways you can safely create them from household objects:
D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

Too, our brains are our biggest sexual organ, and it sounds like you aren't feeling super aroused or engaged a lot of the time you try masturbating. If you can, I would check out this article and see if there are things in it you can incorporate into masturbation: How to Approach Sexual Fantasy and Desire on Your Own Terms.

[jinijin]

hello sam! ive read the articles and they're quite very helpful, thank you!

[Sam W]

You're very welcome!