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My gf never masterbated and watching porn didn't arouse her
My gf never masterbated and watching porn didn't arouse her
hello everybody, please help me because my head is going to blow up,
my gf is 22 years old we are on a long-distance relationship so we don't see each other but we will soon,
we were talking and she mentioned that she tried to masturbate once before but nothing happened and she felt nothing so she didn't try to do it again which means she had never masturbated, she also told me that she watched some porn videos and it didn't turn her on and she didn't like it, she mentioned that she turns on when she thinks about us or make imagination for us together, so my question: is that means she is asexual?
and if not, what should I do to please her sexually and what stuff i should try to turn her on?
and thanks in advance
my gf is 22 years old we are on a long-distance relationship so we don't see each other but we will soon,
we were talking and she mentioned that she tried to masturbate once before but nothing happened and she felt nothing so she didn't try to do it again which means she had never masturbated, she also told me that she watched some porn videos and it didn't turn her on and she didn't like it, she mentioned that she turns on when she thinks about us or make imagination for us together, so my question: is that means she is asexual?
and if not, what should I do to please her sexually and what stuff i should try to turn her on?
and thanks in advance
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Re: My gf never masterbated and watching porn didn't arouse her
Hi wolf009,
I wouldn't take this is a sign she's asexual; it sounds like she's both interested in sex in general and with you, specifically. It's pretty common for people to find they're more turned on by their own fantasies than by porn. After all, we can generate our fantasies to fit our exact desires and preferences in a way sexual media doesn't.
Too, if you poke around the boards, you'll see quite a few people who find masturbation doesn't do much for them, for a variety of reasons, so your girlfriend isn't alone in experiencing that, either.
As for what to do when you two are together, that's actually a question for her, not for us. She's going to be the expert on what things she's been fantasizing about and what kinds of things do (and don't) feel good to her. It might help if you both go through this article and then talk about your answers: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist
I wouldn't take this is a sign she's asexual; it sounds like she's both interested in sex in general and with you, specifically. It's pretty common for people to find they're more turned on by their own fantasies than by porn. After all, we can generate our fantasies to fit our exact desires and preferences in a way sexual media doesn't.
Too, if you poke around the boards, you'll see quite a few people who find masturbation doesn't do much for them, for a variety of reasons, so your girlfriend isn't alone in experiencing that, either.
As for what to do when you two are together, that's actually a question for her, not for us. She's going to be the expert on what things she's been fantasizing about and what kinds of things do (and don't) feel good to her. It might help if you both go through this article and then talk about your answers: Yes, No, Maybe So: A Sexual Inventory Stocklist
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Re: My gf never masterbated and watching porn didn't arouse her
Hello,
The fact that she never masturbated does not prove that she is asexual. Many women do not reach orgasm when they masturbate. As far as porn is concerned, the scenes often deviate from reality and some people do not feel aroused while watching them. These are quite common.
Sincerely,
The fact that she never masturbated does not prove that she is asexual. Many women do not reach orgasm when they masturbate. As far as porn is concerned, the scenes often deviate from reality and some people do not feel aroused while watching them. These are quite common.
Sincerely,
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