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I was at work ( I’m a care assistant) and someone died whilst I was looking after them. It has brought up a lot of memories because my grandad has only recently passed away, it’s causing me to have suicidal and self harm thoughts. I don’t want to harm myself but I don’t have any other choice I’m really struggling

Hi Elle_17,

That sounds like an absolutely gut-wrenching thing to experience, and I'm so sorry you're dealing with grief from losing a loved one on top of the grief you feel from witnessing someone under your care pass away.

Before we address anything else, your safety is the top priority. So, if you think you're at risk of harming yourself to cope with this, my first ask is that you reach out to a hotline or other resource designed specifically to help with that. Here are several options: https://findahelpline.com/gb-eng/sth. Can you reach out to one of those and then come back to us after you get support there?

Hi Sam I will reach out to a helpline sorry

No need to apologize! You're more than welcome to come back and get support here as well, I just wanted to make sure we prioritized getting you the kind of support that was most urgent in this moment <3

Hi Sam, I feel ok now. I reached out to a helpline it felt so much better!

Hey there, Elle.

If at any time how you're feeling changes and you need some extra support around this death, I'm happy to talk with you. I'm someone who has experienced a lot of death, and supported many people in it, and I'm also in death doula training. <3

Heather wrote: ↑Mon May 15, 2023 2:29 pm Hey there, Elle.

If at any time how you're feeling changes and you need some extra support around this death, I'm happy to talk with you. I'm someone who has experienced a lot of death, and supported many people in it, and I'm also in death doula training. <3

Hi heather,

Losing him has really gotten to me, like I know how sad my dad is, which makes this situation even worse. I just wish he was still alive . I’d love to have someone to talk to

Hi Elle,

I just wanted to let you know Heather isn't in today, but that I'll let them know you've responded and would like to take them up on their offer!

Sam W wrote: ↑Tue May 16, 2023 9:01 am Hi Elle,

I just wanted to let you know Heather isn't in today, but that I'll let them know you've responded and would like to take them up on their offer!

Hey Sam,

Aw ok! Hugs

Hey, elle. I'm around today if you'd like to talk. I'll be in until about 5 CST. I'll also be here tomorrow from about 10 - 5 CST.