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Hey so my last post I sort of mentioned it a bit but I'm 16 cis female and I'm bisexual.

But I have parents well.. who are MAGA, Christian. And will punish me if they found out I'm masturbating.

Every time I have a orgasm I moan and I can't help it, we live in a small house and I'm rarely home alone.

What can I do to be able to masturbate more frequently without my parents knowing. I get instantly turned on by porn so it only takes me 10-15 minutes.

Hi brooke123,

Your personal safety is our number one priority and, circling back to your previous thread, if there is a very high risk of punishment that would harm you physically or mentally, it might be a good idea to limit those activities until you are in a space that is safe for you. Does that feel like something that could work for you?

In terms of getting you some support that you need. Do you have other people in your life that are accepting and you can trust, possibly neighbors, friends, or school counselors?

Hi Michaela thank you for the response.

So there is a high-risk that I get a punishment if I get caught but overall the odds that I get caught are extremely low but I want to masturbate more than I am (currently once every 3 months while I'm home alone). I could try to wait until I'm out of the house when I'm 18 and do it but I really want to masturbate more now and not wait.

I mean yeah I have some friends I can talk to but I'm not sure how they could help/what I could ask them

Hi brooke123,

If the main factor that is a concern is the noise then masturbating in the shower/tub can help to provide some privacy through the sound of running water, as well as hopefully the bathroom is a space where your parents respect your privacy. Additionally, playing music out loud can help hide moaning. However, if that is something you have never done before you might want to just play music out loud a few times first to see how your parents react or normalize the experience of hearing music come from your room so that it wouldn't seem out of the ordinary.

In terms of support from friends, I was asking more thinking of adult mentors or other family/community members who you could talk to about some of the things you have been experiencing. In many places throughout the US, there are also queer and trans-supportive centers and resources that we could help you look into for your area if that is something you are interested in.

Thank you Michaela I'll do both of those things for around 2 weeks, see how my parents react and assuming they don't care then I will masturbate in the tub.

But how would I masturbate in the tub? Do I just do it normally? Or is there a different way I should do it?

And what would a queer center do? How would they help? I'm definitely interested but not sure what they could do. Like could I masturbate there?

Hi brooke123,

There's no one, specific way to masturbate in a tub or a shower; some people just do it the way they would in a bed, others see if incorporating the showerhead or faucet helps at all. It really depends on the configuration of the show or tub and what kinds of stimulation feel good to you.

And no, an LGBT center is not a place to masturbate. It's a place to find resources and community. Too, since you've indicated to us that your parents may not be safe adults for you, it would be a place to potentially find safe, supportive adults to talk with about things in your life, including the situation at home. If you can tell us your general location (city or state depending on what your comfortable with) we can help you work out if there's an LGBT center nearby.

Hello Sam thanks for the response.

If possible can you elaborate on the faucet thing. How can I incorporate it while masturbating.

And yes I live in Maine (If there is a way I can directly message you so you are the only one who can see it Ican say the city if needed)

You can read about how to safely incorporate a faucet or showerhead into masturbation in this article: D.I.Y. Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition.

Before I give you resources, can you clarify something for me? Your IP address says you're in a state other than Maine. I want to make sure I'm getting you resources for the right location.

Thank you I will read that.

And yes I use a VPN so my IP changes

Hey, brooke: VPNs are what adults who troll or harass us most often use, so we need to ask you not to use that when you are posting here, please.