I don't know if I'm orgasaming
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claudebunnies
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I don't know if I'm orgasaming
When I masturbate I rub myself primarily. I've never climaxed with penetration. it feels good all the way through. I've learned where is sensitive and what I like. The problem comes when I can feel myself reaching what I think is climax. My legs get shakyish and I feel it feel good but there's no white light or huge pleasurable moment, it's just rising and then I think I climax but it doesn't feel as satisfying as I think it's supposed to. When I'm done, I'm sensitive but can sometimes just go again and then I become frustrated with the feeling a bit How do I know what a real climax looks or feels like?
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Re: I don't know if I'm orgasaming
Hi claudebunnies,
Something that often gets left out in discussions of orgasm is that how one feels can vary not only from person to person, but for a given person from day to day. So people end up assuming that if they don't experience this massive, intense reaction, then what they felt couldn't possibly be an orgasm. But from what we know about sexual response, some orgasms can feel pretty mild, even underwhelming if we're expecting a big, intense sensation.
From your description, it sounds like you might already be experiencing orgasm, at least some of the time. If you look at how orgasm is described here, does it seem like you've experienced something similar? Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide
Something that often gets left out in discussions of orgasm is that how one feels can vary not only from person to person, but for a given person from day to day. So people end up assuming that if they don't experience this massive, intense reaction, then what they felt couldn't possibly be an orgasm. But from what we know about sexual response, some orgasms can feel pretty mild, even underwhelming if we're expecting a big, intense sensation.
From your description, it sounds like you might already be experiencing orgasm, at least some of the time. If you look at how orgasm is described here, does it seem like you've experienced something similar? Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide
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