I don’t really remember my sa, i remember small bits of it.
i was diagnosed with PTSD when i was 12, and i feel that it’s not valid because i don’t remember it well. I was nine, and i went over to my friends house(also nine) with my other friend (9-10). i remember we were playing video games, and that had eventually resulted in them suggesting things to me. (as i said, i don’t remember well, but i’ll try my best to explain) i remember my butt being groped, them laying on it, being kissed, being held down and my breasts groped. i don’t remember how i left. i vaguely remember telling my mom soon after it had happened, and her dismissing it, such as telling me she would talk to their moms about it, which she never did. my mom has also told me i need to get past it, and that it was years go and i shouldn’t still be affected by this. both of them live close to me, one of them still being my neighbor and the other only two houses down. i told my therapist one day, but no legal action could be taken because they were under the age of ten. me and the neighbor also share a birthday, and i hate my birthday for it.
is it still SA if i don’t remember much? and is what my mom saying true?
i don’t remember my sa
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Re: i don’t remember my sa
Hi there, learning3545
It is fairly common for SA survivors to have incomplete memories of what happened- it is still SA, even if you don't remember that much. I don't think your mother is right to just dismiss your experiences like that- healing takes time and isn't always linear. There isn't a schedule that you need to be following. How do you feel about this?
It is fairly common for SA survivors to have incomplete memories of what happened- it is still SA, even if you don't remember that much. I don't think your mother is right to just dismiss your experiences like that- healing takes time and isn't always linear. There isn't a schedule that you need to be following. How do you feel about this?