How exactly should my attraction and lust for other people work?

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CrazyBonobo
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How exactly should my attraction and lust for other people work?

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I am inexperienced when it comes to relationships, sex and the sciences that study such matters. I am concerned about how my lewdness operates on a mental level. It's hard to do justice to sensations with words, but it doesn't hurt to try: I feel a primal attraction to the physiques of those I find sensual. Sometimes for the whole, sometimes for specific parts. My salaciousness is raw and visual-oriented. Of course, the personality of the other also influences my attraction, I don't like bodies without agency.
That said, we are in a time of intense social transformation and after a while on social media I see other people, especially women or lesbians saying that their sexual attraction works in a more ethereal, holistic way. These more physical forms of horniness are said to be gross and a path to dehumanization and violence.
Like, are these processes supposed to work differently in my brain? Should I see some kind of specialist to fix my neaderthal-tier sexuality?
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Re: How exactly should my attraction and lust for other people work?

Unread post by Latha »

Hi there CrazyBonobo- welcome to the boards!

Honestly, I don't think you need to see a specialist for this because I don't think there is a problem to fix. Feeling attraction to people's bodies is not gross or a slippery slope to dehumanization and violence- it is a normal and fairly common way of experiencing attraction. What really matters is how you treat people- you can feel attraction in this way and still treat people kindly and respectfully.
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