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Can she get pregnant?

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what are the chances?

So my gf jerk me off and I cummed on my belly it got exposed to air and I pulled my shorts so the shorts probably hit or touches the semen and after 3 or 5 minutes I wiped it off with a towel it was kinda dried and moist not sure if I touched any but I'm pretty sure I didn't touch any because of the towel then I fingered her. she's 2 days after menstruation and 4 days before the predicted ovulation. We didn't do penetration. both 15 y/o

I researched pregnancy from this is extremely, extremely low to happen and super close to 0% like 99.99% impossible

It's her first mens and idk when is her next period going to come should I be worried? it's been 1 week since that happened 2 days ago she felt bloating but only after eating. Her first mens lasted about 8 days
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Hi there, Yohanz- welcome to the boards!

You're right that it is incredibly unlikely that this caused pregnancy- in fact, I'd go ahead and say that there is no chance that your girlfriend is pregnant. In order for pregnancy to be a risk, there has to be direct genital-to-genital contact between someone with a penis and someone with a vulva, or direct contact with ejaculate (semen) and the vulva, vaginal opening, or anus.

If you'd like to learn more about the risks different activities pose, check out this article:Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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thanks for replying is there really no chance? my anxiety won't go away because I'm afraid she might get similar symptoms to pregnancy.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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my fingers only reached the vaginal opening and did not enter the vaginal canal
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Yohanz wrote: Fri Aug 11, 2023 2:32 am thanks for replying is there really no chance? my anxiety won't go away because I'm afraid she might get similar symptoms to pregnancy.
Yes, there really is no chance.
Yohanz wrote: Fri Aug 11, 2023 3:02 am my fingers only reached the vaginal opening and did not enter the vaginal canal
Ah, so it is more important to think about whether there was direct contact between your ejaculate and the vulva/vagina than where your fingers were. Based on your description, I don't think there was the kind of contact necessary to cause pregnancy.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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so 100% no chance?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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That's correct. Sperm just cannot survive the situation you described and still pose a risk of pregnancy.

If you're still feeling anxious, I'm going to ask that you read this before asking anymore questions here:
The Pregnancy Panic Companion
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Alright thankyou very much!
It's hard to get a pregnancy test here in my country if you're a teen but it's not even needed right? because there's zero chance at all.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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That's correct. Too, if you're feeling this anxious about this incident, that is often a sign to take a step back from sexual activity and only do sexual things where you both know and feel comfortable with the pregnancy risk (if there is any) ahead of time.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Yep we planned to do that becauss it's too traumatizing for me that I didn't even eat much for like 5 days.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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I taking a break sounds like an excellent idea then!
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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and I cantrust your judgement right? because this website is credible enough. Thanks for making my anxiety go away!!!
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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It's not really a matter of trusting my judgement or not, because the information I gave you is based, like everything we write, on the most up to date understandings of how pregnancy does and does not happen. But if you're curious about how to make sure a sex ed source is accurate, this is a good piece to read: Legit or Unfit? Finding Safe, Sound Sex Educators & Support Online
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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can I rest assured that your answer is based on information that is accurate and reliable?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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As I just said, it is. Since this conversation is starting to go in circles, I'm going to give you a section from our pregnancy fear and anxiety policy and ask that you follow it:

"For those who come in with pregnancy scares who, based on what they have told us, absolutely could not be or become pregnant, or who otherwise are not or have not been directly involved with an actual pregnancy: we are happy to talk with you, but we will not engage in ongoing or repeat conversations to validate that you or a partner are not pregnant, nor explain repeatedly how pregnancy can or can't occur.

We are glad to engage in discussions with anyone, however, with ways of helping that are within our abilities and a good fit for the mediums we help through, like:

-providing support for people feeling scared or anxious who are currently pregnant or are directly involved with a current pregnancy
-giving help creating sexual limits and boundaries based on individual needs -- including the need not to become or risk pregnancy -- and/or presenting them to partners
-discussing healthy or unhealthy relationships or sexual interactions
-discussing cultural beliefs, policies or social interactions that create fear of pregnancy
- discussing sexual abuse or assault trauma or other trauma that can create or increase these fears
- providing help finding or using contraception or making reproductive choices
-for those having scares because they have some form of anxiety or other mental illness, help locating qualified care or engaging in sound self-help.
-providing additional resources both on and off-site."
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Sorry it's because of my anxiety. The semen in my situation is considered not fresh right? So even if I touched a tiny bit it wouldn't change the overall result that is a 100% zero chance?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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Hi again, Yohanz

I'm sorry, but as Sam said, we can't keep having this kind of conversation- it isn't good for your anxiety. The answer will not change no matter how many times you ask- you already have the facts that you need there. We can discuss some of the other things listed in Sam's last response:
  • providing support for people feeling scared or anxious who are currently pregnant or are directly involved with a current pregnancy
  • giving help creating sexual limits and boundaries based on individual needs -- including the need not to become or risk pregnancy -- and/or presenting them to partners
  • discussing healthy or unhealthy relationships or sexual interactions
  • discussing cultural beliefs, policies or social interactions that create fear of pregnancy
  • discussing sexual abuse or assault trauma or other trauma that can create or increase these fears
  • providing help finding or using contraception or making reproductive choices
  • for those having scares because they have some form of anxiety or other mental illness, help locating qualified care or engaging in sound self-help.
  • providing additional resources both on and off-site.
Would you like help with any of these things?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

Unread post by Yohanz »

This day she said to me that she have some discharge and it's white I'm kinda worried what's that typically mean?
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Re: Can she get pregnant?

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You can read about the different kinds of discharge here: Honorably Discharged: A Guide to Vaginal Secretions

Since it sounds like you're still stuck in an anxious space around this, I'm going to go ahead and close this thread. We have a LOT of information on the main website about pregnancy fear and how pregnancy does and doesn't happen, so if you need to reassure yourself again, I'd suggest starting with those.
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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