Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

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Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

Unread post by Lylecouse »

Hii, i am very curious. On what he said the one who ask.

And i want to ask this, i had a protected sex, but before putting a condom i had pre-cum, so when i inserted my condom and idk if my finger does pre-cum on it. I just wore the condom and do my thing and eventually i didn't come, coz we stop for some reasons.. So my question is, will my girl be pregnant even we had protection?. Assuming that fingertips has precum when putting condoms?

My girl told me, i didnt come (cum) coz we stop so why worried. Should i let her takr morning after pill?

I am very worried, if the precum was on my fingertips and while putting condoms. Thanks you
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

Unread post by Sam W »

Hi Lylecouse,

I moved your question onto it's own thread since there's some additional things to address.

There isn't any risk in the scenario you're describing, since even if your fingers did have pre-ejaculate on them, if there was sperm present it wasn't going to survive being moved from place to place. So as long as the condom didn't break or come off, and you used it the entire time you had sex, you can assume it did what it was supposed to and you two are protected from pregnancy.

That being said, it's really up to your girlfriend whether or not she takes emergency contraception. It's not something you let her take or not, it's something she can choose to take depending on how comfortable she is with the risks of a given situation.
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

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Thanks sam, you really cleared my mind.

As i have mentioned, my girl didn't take any contraceptions, and my i just used condoms and didn't even cum on it nor did break. So, There's no risk of pregnancy? Right?.

I was looking for morning after pills, i am being delusional with this, because of the fingertips while wearing the condoms 😭.
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

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And last question

Is it ok to let her take morning after pills just to make sure?
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

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So, the morning after pill and emergency contraception are the same thing, which is why I talked about them that way. Again, whether or not to take them is up to her, since she's the one who would be dealing with a pregnancy if there had been a risk (which, in this case, there hasn't been).

From what you're describing, you used both withdrawal (pulling out before ejaculating) and a condom, which means you have two forms of protection against pregnancy. And, as I said, touching your condom with a hand that had maybe touched pre-ejaculate doesn't pose a risk. So, there's not a risk in this scenario.
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

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How did this turn out for you, Lylecouse? I had a similar situation in April where my condom broke (I hadn't ejaculated) but the head of my penis had some precum and lubricant. I inserted a new condom onto the head of my penis (mixed with lube and precum). I'm still worried that I may have mistakenly touched the head of my penis with my fingers and transferred some of the precum on my fingers to the outside of the condom and then penetrated her.
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Re: Eliminating precum before putting condom on?

Unread post by HannahP »

Hi MickTheMash! Welcome to the boards!

Like Sam said to Lylecouse, sperm is very fragile and it can't survive well being moved from place to place on your fingers. Is that information and the rest of what Sam wrote helpful at all? We'd be happy to provide more clarification or talk through your situation in more detail if you'd like to make your own thread.
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