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so i'm trying to write erotic stories (for my own enjoyment, not going to make them public until i come of age), and since i don't have much experience but i do know some things, i am wondering about this.

so it is already well known that virtually no AFAB person comes with p-in-v penetration. but i wonder, in which ways would they? could be from hands or oral stimulation, but is it generally done before or after? and if there's other options what could they be

i know better than to see video porn for the answer to this, but the written stories that i find online don't seem to answer it either.

and sorry if this question sounds stupid but as i said, i never had sex before.

Hi there, Lyle Lanley! Don't worry, this question isn't stupid.

I think one of the reasons you're finding it difficult to find an answer is because there isn't a clear, universally applicable one. We can generalize a little bit, but there isn't really a set formula for how people come. In general, it is true that many people with vaginas won't climax from PIV sex alone, and in general, it is true that people are more likely to orgasm from clitoral stimulation than vaginal stimulation, but that still leaves room for a lot of variation. (I'd say that's a good thing)

could be from hands or oral stimulation, but is it generally done before or after? and if there's other options what could they be

(I'm assuming you mean before or after PIV sex, let me know if I'm mistaken.) I'd say it can be done at any time, based on the preferences of the people having sex. In fact, it doesn't have to be structured around PIV sex, because people don't have to have that kind of sex.

We've mostly discussed sex that involves the genitals here, so I think it is important to remember that arousal and pleasure are experiences that involve the whole body and mind- exploring other pleasurable sensations and areas of the body, and being mentally engaged can help a lot with reaching climax.

Does this make sense?