I have a question about perceiving your gender. Is it healthy to try to positively visualize your genitals as something like a pillow or something instead of as genitals? This isn't in a sexual role play way. And can you use that same visualization when your cleaning your body or do you need the mindfulness, or can you do both? I hope that makes sense, if not than I'll just move on. I am asking this because I personally, find looking at genitals uncomfortable and also is that like a trauma thing? (I'm almost 22).
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Visualizing genitals
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Re: Visualizing genitals
Hi there, Starsandsloths
If it isn't keeping you from taking care of your health, I don't see how it could be unhealthy. Could discomfort with genitals be due to trauma? Yes, possibly- it can also be caused by picking up on sex-negative messages in our environment.
It can take time and energy to unlearn such messages or heal from trauma- and doing that may not be a priority for you at this point in time. So I'd say that this should be fine, so long as you can still take care of your health.
If it isn't keeping you from taking care of your health, I don't see how it could be unhealthy. Could discomfort with genitals be due to trauma? Yes, possibly- it can also be caused by picking up on sex-negative messages in our environment.
It can take time and energy to unlearn such messages or heal from trauma- and doing that may not be a priority for you at this point in time. So I'd say that this should be fine, so long as you can still take care of your health.