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Merawke
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Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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Hi, Thankyou for reading my message.

So i had dry humping with my girlfriend on 20 and 22 November. Both of the dry humping session are using condom and she and i were fully clothed (4 layers) and also after the session i took off my condom and continue to dry hump with an extra layer of blanket (5 layers) and did not cum but only pre-cum. I ejaculated on both session (she and i were wet).

why did I always think that she will got pregnant? will she got pregnant? It has not been off my mind since then and im not planning anything to do with any sexual activity in the future until it got off from my mind? im sorry for many questions and thankyou
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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Hi Merawke,

You can safely say there was no risk of pregnancy from this situation. If one layer of clothing, let alone four or five, is present, there's just no way for sperm to get through it in a way that leaves them able to potentially create a pregnancy. You can read more about why that is here: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

If after reading my answer and that piece, you're still feeling anxious, I would give this a read to see if any of the reasons listed might apply to you: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are?
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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Thankyou for the reassurance are there any post or thread that could help manage my anxiety?
Sam W
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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You're welcome! I would start by going through that "You're not Pregnant, Why do You think You are" as it has recommended next steps in each section. I would also give this article a look, as it covers a variety of resources for coping with anxiety, including anxiety around pregnancy: Anxiety and Other Mental Health Resources
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Merawke
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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Are there any scientific explanation why dry hump is no risk of pregnancy? sorry for more question
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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The basic answer is that clothing is a barrier that sperm cannot get through. For a longer answer, you can give this a read: https://www.scarleteen.com/blog/clairep ... g_freakout
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
Merawke
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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thankyou very much
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Re: Pregnancy Scare Anxiety

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You're welcome!
And you to whom adversity has dealt the final blow/with smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go/turn to and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain/and like the Mary Ellen Carter rise again.
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