Mixed Messages. What does it mean?
Posted: Wed Jan 21, 2015 5:22 pm
Hi all. I'm 19, male and in a serious relationship with a woman just a few months older than myself and she's pregnant at the moment with my son. We've known each other for around 8 years and decided to get together 2 years ago in February. Our relationship was quite good last year but has rapidly been stressing us both out. I'm close to boiling point atm.
We are great together most times. But I do get mixed messages. I'm doing all I can for her. Seeing her and spending time with her and all she wants really. I go out of my own way every day to treat her right but I don't think it's appreciated. It's obvious she loves me and I love her but the thing is. I'm not actually made known that she wants me around.
For example, the other day I went round to her house after I finished work in the afternoon. I asked her if she wanted to watch a film or something together. Her reply was "I can't be arsed as I'm not feeling too good". I thought "Ok that's fine, I understand". But was really upset about it. Yet a few hours later when I went home. I was on Skype to her and she was gallivanting around her house doing stuff for other people that could have been done by the people themselves. She then comes back on Skype and I asked her what's up and that and she said nothing was up.
To get to the point, I do stuff for her as well as other people yet when it's the other way around she likes to help and spend time with other people but just give up on me and I get to overthinking. Why is she just doing this to me? What have I done wrong? But then after the so many times she has done this, I plucked up my courage to ask her and try to speak like adults, I succeeded at first speaking like an adult but then when she says her part she's always denying things and twisting things to make me out to be the bad person. I think the only thing that makes me a bad person is caring too much tbh.![Sad :-(](./images/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif)
I'm just looking for advice really and to hear if anyone else has had an experience like this so at least someone will understand. Thanks all.
We are great together most times. But I do get mixed messages. I'm doing all I can for her. Seeing her and spending time with her and all she wants really. I go out of my own way every day to treat her right but I don't think it's appreciated. It's obvious she loves me and I love her but the thing is. I'm not actually made known that she wants me around.
For example, the other day I went round to her house after I finished work in the afternoon. I asked her if she wanted to watch a film or something together. Her reply was "I can't be arsed as I'm not feeling too good". I thought "Ok that's fine, I understand". But was really upset about it. Yet a few hours later when I went home. I was on Skype to her and she was gallivanting around her house doing stuff for other people that could have been done by the people themselves. She then comes back on Skype and I asked her what's up and that and she said nothing was up.
To get to the point, I do stuff for her as well as other people yet when it's the other way around she likes to help and spend time with other people but just give up on me and I get to overthinking. Why is she just doing this to me? What have I done wrong? But then after the so many times she has done this, I plucked up my courage to ask her and try to speak like adults, I succeeded at first speaking like an adult but then when she says her part she's always denying things and twisting things to make me out to be the bad person. I think the only thing that makes me a bad person is caring too much tbh.
![Sad :-(](./images/smilies/icon_e_sad.gif)
I'm just looking for advice really and to hear if anyone else has had an experience like this so at least someone will understand. Thanks all.