Can’t shoot my cum

[Maximil]

I masturbate once a day everyday, and when I ejaculate my cum just oozes out how can I fix this without going to the doctor?

[Latha]

Hi Maximil,

I want to preface my response by stating that this may not be a problem. Everyone's body is different, so there isn't a specific standard for how much force you should ejaculate with. If you feel satisfied when you masturbate, then this can just be the way your body works, at least right now.

The force with which someone ejaculates can be influenced by a bunch of factors. These include any medications they are taking, health conditions they have, their hormone levels, pelvic floor health, age, stress levels, hydration, and certain other lifestyle habits like smoking.

Since you don't want to see a doctor, we can start with some changes you can try on your own.

• If you've noticed yourself feeling significant stress (especially when you masturbate) you could try to address that.

• Doing kegal exercises may help you strength the muscles that are involved in ejaculation.

• Some people find that they ejaculate with more force when they take longer breaks before having sex or masturbating. To be clear, there is nothing wrong with masturbating every day, but you could see if taking more time results in stronger ejaculations.

What do you think of this?

[Maximil]

What are kegel excercises? I also tried to stop masturbating for 5 days to get more cum, it didnt seem stronger.

[Sam W]

Hi Maximil,

A Kegel is a controlled way of tightening and releasing the pelvic floor. Can I ask why the volume of ejaculate, or how it comes out, is concerning you?

[Maximil]

I’ve watched videos of people and they always shoot out so i was just wondering why i cant do it

[Sam W]

I'm assuming you mean porn? If that's the case, there's a good chance that some of what you're seeing is actually faked. You can read more about how ejaculation is faked on screen here. Bare Bodies: Reality Checking Mainstream Porn .

More to the point, as Latha said in the first response, bodies are varied in terms of things like orgasm and ejaculation. Just because one penis ejaculates in a certain way doesn't mean another will, or should, do the same, you know?