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Kissing
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Rosie
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Kissing
I've just started seeing a super cute guy who I'm really interested in, but we kissed on our (first) date the other night and made out for a little bit. The problem is I didnt enjoy kissing him (it's the same with all the other guys I've kissed) and I don't know why, all I can think about while kissing is if I'm doing it right, do you think he's noticed I'm not into it and just that the kiss is gross. I don't know if it's because I don't know how to kiss or because all the guys I've kissed can't kiss? Help please
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Heather
- scarleteen founder & director
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- Location: Chicago
Re: Kissing
Welcome to the boards, Rosie. 
I think the best place to start with this may be figuring out whay you feel like kisses have been gross for you. Is it something that on a physical level, feels unpleasant, like say, tasting something bitter or touching something that feels creepy on your fingers?
Or is it something that feels more emotionally off-putting, like something about doing that with someone makes you feel emotionally uncomfortable or upset, or like you are somewhere you just do not want to be?
I think the best place to start with this may be figuring out whay you feel like kisses have been gross for you. Is it something that on a physical level, feels unpleasant, like say, tasting something bitter or touching something that feels creepy on your fingers?
Or is it something that feels more emotionally off-putting, like something about doing that with someone makes you feel emotionally uncomfortable or upset, or like you are somewhere you just do not want to be?
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