i'm insecure

[fresariver]

Hello! Me and this boy have been hitting things off really well for the past month. I'm not planning on having sex or doing anything like that for at least a while, but I'm am i for the future. I have these little skin tags around my genital area (like where the leg folds. it's not like stds or something because i'm a virgin) and i never really cared for it but now that things are getting serious i'm scared of what's to come. I don't want things to escalate and then he sees my body and thinks the skin tags are gross or something even though i have no clue how to get rid of them. I just need some advice and guidance on what to do because I don't want him to think I'm like gross or dirty

[KierC]

Hi there Fresariver,

Let’s start with this: there’s nothing gross or dirty about your body for having skin tags. Many, many people have skin tags alongside yourself, especially where the leg folds, and it doesn’t mean you’re not desirable or that anything looks wrong with you. To be honest, skin tags just look like skin tags, and many people will just look at it like that. Too, genital sex comes with a lot more body-stuff than just skin tags, and it may be worth examining how you feel about approaching sex in the first place, you know? How a body looks is not how a body feels or how a body works, and you’re absolutely capable of experiencing sexual pleasure with a partner. But it’s important to make sure you *feel* ready in your body and mind before approaching sex with a partner. How does that sound to you, and how are you feeling about approaching sex apart from the skin tags?