Scarleteen

Hello, I'm quite confused because of my lack of understanding about sex education, please advise or provide me with some articles related to the following topic:
-first time, my boyfriend at that time there was only precum and his hand touched the shaft of the penis then touched my vagina. -
The second time, he ejaculated on his hand and washed it with water (I was worried if it was clean) then touched my vagina.
Is there any chance of pregnancy in both of the above cases? I am on the 19th day of my cycle and cannot use emergency contraception.

Hi Lamie!

When you were asking questions about this in September I believe we linked you to this one:

Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide

Did you give it a read?

What I will say is that sperm is not going to survive any of these situations:

• transferring by the touch of a hand
• surviving as part of pre-ejaculate outside the body
• being washed with anything including water
• being in the open air, outside the body at all - except for a very brief length of time

It is going to be a very hardy virus, or bacteria that survives things like that, not human sperm cells, nor the seminal fluid they need to be in to remain viable.

Even so, I can totally understand being stressed, and perhaps some of that stress being worse due to not having access to emergency contraception.

How does the rest of your sexual health situation look? Do you have access to condoms or other birth control for example?

Thank you for your support, I read the article and found it very useful. However, I want to confirm a little, that not only did he "touch" but he also put his finger in. Many people told me there was still a very small risk of pregnancy, but I was insecure about that "very small" part. My place is quite backward, so it's quite difficult to quickly find contraceptive methods for teenagers.

Hey there Iamie,

I’m glad you were able to look through that article, and that it was useful for you! With regard to the situation you’re describing where he put his finger in, that situation is still indirect contact with pre-ejaculate and is not how pregnancy occurs. Even if he put his finger in, the pre-ejaculate would still have to be transferred from his penis to his hand first, which dries out and kills sperm cells.

When folks say there is a small chance of pregnancy, they mean that whatever activity you described is now how pregnancy is known to occur, but it could theoretically happen. That’s true for some circumstances — However, in the circumstances you’ve described here, sperm is just not going to survive to cause pregnancy.

I’m sorry to hear, though, that it is hard to access safer sex supplies quickly in the event of needing it quickly. Are you able to get condoms before you need them quickly, so you have them around?