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hey ! so i have feelings for two of my best friends , C & J . C has feelings for me too but also likes someone else , D . D isn’t sure if they’re ready for a relationship yet , so C is okay with dating me . one of my other best friends , J , is my ex . they’ve said that they don’t have feelings for me anymore , but they’ve been flirty lately . C is also my ex , but our last relationship ended because i was still inlove with J even being with C , & i didn’t feel as if it was right to lie to C by saying that i loved them only when i still was inlove with J aswell . i know it was a very bitchy thing to do . the main point i’m trying to make here is , i don’t know if i should ask C out & hope that my feelings for J go away , risking the same thing happening again & losing C & C & i’s mutual best friend , R . i really want a partner what the fuck do i do guys

Hey cyybergrey!

How long ago was your last relationship with C? Do you think that if you started another relationship with them it would have a different outcome?

I notice you mention that you have feelings for both. While this can be confusing, I don't think that you having feelings for J invalidates your feelings for C and vice versa. Emotions and feelings can be confusing and it doesn't make you a bad person to not know what to do and who to be with! That being said, it may be for the best for everybody involved if you took a step back to think about what (and who) you really want.

May I ask why exactly you really want a partner?

hi ! my last relationship with C was maybe a month & a half ago , & i think that if i started another relationship with them , it would be different because of what i’ve learned from the previous relationship . i think i really want a partner because i want someone to rely on ; i do have my best friends & friends & family but i want the type of relationship a partner provides ^_^

also thank you so much for actually reading this

It's good that you've learned from the previous relationship!

I know it may be awkward, but is there any way you could have a talk with J about your feelings and whether or not dating again is on the table for the two of you, considering their recent flirtiness? That way, you know whether or not still having feelings for them could lead to something, which would help you decide between the two. On the flip side, would C be interested in starting your relationship again?