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so, whenever i insert something in my vagina it basically forces that thing back out if i’m not holding it there. tampons, toys, you name it.

i lost my virginity last week (!) and my boyfriend said it felt as if he was also being forced out and he had to really make an effort to fight it. this didn’t hurt for me, i wasn’t even aware it was happening.

is this something i need to worry about? i’m not making any conscious effort with those muscles to tense them or anything like that.

Hey itsxafx!

This doesn't sound like something you necessarily need to worry about in terms of it being 'bad', but if it's impeding your life and sex then obviously it's something that should be addressed! It's good that you don't experience pain when your muscles tense, though. Sometimes our bodies work on their own without input and it can be frustrating!

When you had sex, did you/your boyfriend prepare yourself for the penetration? Sometimes, something like foreplay and extra lubricant can make the process easier. It could be as simple as your body just not being used to an intrusion. There are also conditions like vaginismus and pelvic floor dysfunctions that can cause the symptoms you're describing.