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Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

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Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

Unread post by bob.duncan »

I'm a 23 year old male. When I get an erection it points completely vertically touching my stomach. I can't move it down much and it makes a lot of positions difficult, and even causes my girlfriend discomfort.

Main question:
Does anyone have experience with a penis like this? Could you recommend any positions that could work well?

Other questions:
Is this angle a cause of concern?

Is there a name for this condition?

Is this unattractive?
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Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

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Hi bob.duncan,

It's more common for a penis to have some degree of curve (called congenital curvature ) rather than not, so the fact that it's shaped this way isn't in and of itself cause for concern, though it does sound like yours is on the "more curved" end of the scale. That being said, do you experience any pain or discomfort when you get an erection? And is this how your erections have always been, or have they recently started being this shape?

As for positions, that's really something you and she will have to continue experimenting with to see if there are ones that are comfortable for both of you. If there just doesn't seem to be one, then it may make more sense to focus on sexual things that don't require inserting the penis into the vagina. As for whether it's attractive or not, there's no single answer to that, because what a given person finds attractive, or unattractive, varies so widely.
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Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

Unread post by bob.duncan »

Hey Sam,

Thanks for the reply.

It's not about the curve, it just points straight up. Like if a guy were to lay down it would also be against the stomach, but for me it's also like that when I stand up. It has always been like that and causes me no pain.

We do focus on non-penetrative things a lot of the time, but we were hoping this type of erection wasn't all that rare and could get some suggestions on what we should do, and also if this is some sort of condition or a cause for concern.
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Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

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If this is how your erections have always been, and it's not causing you pain, then in all likelihood this is a quirk of your body rather than something to be concerned about. If you wanted to be certain it was or wasn't part of another condition, that would be a question for a healthcare provider.

Too, at a certain point there isn't one, specific thing I can suggest for you and your girlfriend to try, as a lot of this really is about experimentation. If you haven't tried them already, things like wedges or other pillows/items designed to help people be comfortable in different positions during sex might be something to look into to see if they help you find positions that feel good and comfortable to you both.
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Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

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Hello. I have the same problem, and was wondering if there was any solution. There are also some positions that I find uncomfortable since I cannot move my penis to point down or straight without feeling like I’m “pulling” too much.
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Re: Anyone seen an erection point straight up touching the belly

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Hi Crensal!

I'd recommend making your own thread as this one is several months old... but to give a brief initial answer, I'm not sure this is a a problem necessarily needs a solution - very few people are going to feel able or safe doing every sexual position, let alone feel comfortable in all those positions, and while positioning ais often sold as a way of "maximizing pleasure", communicating with your partner about what leg to put where, and using cushions of various sizes is actually far more useful as a way of avoiding uncomfortable positions altogether, rather than forcing something to work which is painful or just not working. So I'd talk to your partner(s) about the pain or discomfort you're having and try something else, it can be far more rewarding to adapt to your body than trying to make it adapt to something which isn't working.
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