my fingers don't feel good

[abiv]

I'm sure this topic has been discussed a dozen of times here but... I feel good when I'm rubbing my kitty (never came from it though, just feels good for a few seconds), but when it comes to my finger inside, it just... doesn't feel neither good or bad. When I'm really wet I can fit one finger inside, but it just feels like air, like nothing's inside, I can't fit more than one finger inside though. What do I do?

[Anya]

Hi Abiv,

Welcome to the boards!

It seems like you're having some trouble figuring out what your body likes. You're are not alone in this! As you mentioned, this topic is a common struggle, and one that can involve some trial and error.

There is a widespread misconception that pleasure primarily comes from putting or having things inside the vagina. This has been disproven now by many studies, but is still held as common belief among many. Clitoral stimulation has been found to be the most common form of masturbation for those with vulvas, but many people don't know that because of the taboo around it and a lack of education. I've linked below a few of our articles on this subject that I recommend.

How Do You Masturbate?
Going Solo: Basics of Masturbation
How To Have Your First Orgasm: Primer

I would give these articles a look, but please let us know if you still have questions afterwards!