Anyone used delay spray?

[MarkW]

I've struggled with premature ejaculation whenever I have sex. My partner is understanding, but I feel disappointed not lasting that long. I'm thinking of using a type of product called delay spray to desensitize myself. I see a few different ones out there like Promescent and Steady Freddy (yeah, weird name lol). Anyone ever used one?

[Heather]

Desensitization creams and sprays are generally not something we advise. Some of them have ingredients that can irritate genital tissue of the user and their partner, but more to the point, we're really here for sex that accepts and honors what people's bodies can and can't do. We just know that approach to leave everyone feeling a lot better about themselves and their bodies, and to create a sexual life with partners where it's really about us as we are, rather than trying to meet other standards. Make sense?

So, if your partner wants a longer period of time, for instance, with things your penis can do, when your penis can't do those things or can't at a certain point, how about instead using things like a toy or your hands to duplicate those kinds of sensations?

[FlynnS]

Yeah, I’ve tried delay sprays like that before, but honestly, they didn’t give me the results I was hoping for. What actually worked better for me were techniques like the stop-start method and edging, which really helped me build control over time. I also sometimes use dapoxetine, which helps with PE by increasing serotonin levels, and it’s made a huge difference. It’s all about finding what works for you, but I’d say give techniques a shot first—they really helped me more than any spray.

Keep working on it, and you’ll see improvement!