I'm so anxious and i really need help.

[talarose@12]

I'm 21 year old female and i do not use any hormonal therapy or contraceptives.

I had a non-PIV encounter that made me think i could get pregnant (I dry humped a guy and he slipped a hand in my pants to finger me and i did the same to give him a hand job. i could feel some precum or cum but i'm not sure, at some point i started fingering myself but i don't know if i had precum or cum in my hands.), this was on 22 Jan and i had my period before that on 15th Jan. I usually have regular 26-30 day cycle that lasts about 5 days.

On 8th Feb (17 days after encounter) i took a preg test and it was negative. I took another test this morning (22 days after encounter) and it is negative again.

My worry here is, on 11th Feb I got something like a period that lasted 2 days, stains more pink than red on pad, not regular flow (more watery?) but bright red when wiped. Just want to check if this happened because of something to do with that encounter or is it the stress affecting my cycle?

[Heather]

Hi there, talarose.

So, I want to share a couple links with you so that, moving forward, you can know what actually presents a real pregnancy risk and what doesn't. What you have posted doesn't, namely because direct contact between your genitals and a penis are what's needed for pregnancy, outside IVF procedures, and that's because sperm cells are super delicate AND all the fluids they are ejaculated with, not to mention the propulsion of ejaculate, are needed for conception.

Here's more on that:

• Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide: this explains to you how pregnancy actually happens, step by step, and all that is needed for it to even have a chance at happening.
• Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?: this one can tell you what, if any, level of risk of pregnancy or STIs a given sexual activity presents.

It sounds to me like on the 11th, you had your period or the start of it, since it sounds like it's due right around now based on the usual timing of your cycles. Sometimes flow can be shorter than other times, and sometimes it can stop and then start again, so it may be you see it again before the week is up.

[talarose@12]

Thanks so much Heather, it's relieving to hear!

Just to double confirm with you, there is absolutely no chances of pregnancy through this incident right? Do I need to take another pregnancy test to confirm just in case? Apologies, I have no sexEd background what so ever and I harbour a lot of guilt from that incident

[CaitlinEve]

No need to apologize! Yes, this specific incident cannot lead to pregnancy. You do not need to take another pregnancy test, but it wouldn't be harmful if you needed to, to help with your anxiety.

[talarose@12]

Thank you! i just, im not sure how i feel and i wake up every morning so scared and paranoid i plan to take another test later sometime in the eve- hopefully doing this one last time will ease my mind.

[HannahP]

Hi Talarose! I'm sorry you're feeling so scared and stressed! Your negative pregnancy tests definitely mean that you are not pregnant and I hope seeing one more will confirm that for you. If you do still end up having some lingering anxiety, I think it might be helpful for you to follow our The Pregnancy Panic Companion, which has some suggestions for how to ease your anxiety even after a negative pregnancy test.

[talarose@12]

thank you! i took a test and it looks negative to me, idk if that's really the case though. ig i'm going to hang on tight and hope for a normal flow period the coming month.

[Reels_creators]

Be easy, and your previous tests are also enough to confirm that you are not. Do not take extra pressure.

[Jacob]

Aw it sounds like you're doing a good job of sitting with it and waiting to see how your cycle goes! It sounds like the the pregnancy test confirms everything you/we knew about your chances of pregnancy here.

(Also, hey Reels_creators, I've edited out your response which was in all-caps to make it normal sentence case, otherwise IT FEELS LIKE YOU'RE SHOUTING and we don't want that)

[talarose@12]

thank you so much everyone! i was just wondering if there is a way to attach images in this thread? i just need one last confirmation from someone who can read tests to confirm and then i'll stop haha. idk if its me but i feel cramping and my feed doesn't help as it keeps presenting pregnancy content and everything.

[talarose@12]

maybe this works: it's a link to something i asked on reddit- dw about privacy or anything, it's from a throwaway account i plan to delete end of this week. if you aren't allowed to view i get it too, please let me know though! thanks a ton (:

[KierC]

Hi Talarose!

We don’t allow pictures to be sent on our services, so I’ve removed the link from your post. No worries, just wanted you to know that’s why I edited your second post.

In lieu of sending pictures, I would take the previous negative tests as a good indication that you’re not pregnant. I’m sorry to hear about your feed showing you pregnancy stuff though, the algorithm can be so pesky like that! Sometimes it can help to “reset” (both the algorithm and how you feel, sometimes!) by taking a social media break when you feel things are coming up that you don’t want to.