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Talk to someone

Unread post by Laney »

Hi could I chat with someone on live chat I have some issues and I want advice I am central time zone
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Re: Talk to someone

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Hi! What would be the best time, in Central time, for you to chat? I'll see if I or someone else on the team can open chat for you then :) After me, there is no one else in tonight for direct service, but we have a few folks in tomorrow so that could work.
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Re: Talk to someone

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Well I suppose time that would work would be 255
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Re: Talk to someone

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And I would like to talk to you sofi
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Re: Talk to someone

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Hi Laney!

Sofi is not in today, but we have a few other staffers who may be able to open chat. Is that alright with you, or would you like to schedule when Sofi is here?
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Well when could she come in
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Re: Talk to someone

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When does she work
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Re: Talk to someone

Unread post by Heather »

Hi there, Laney. If you can say more about why you want to talk with Sofi in particular, and use the chat specifically, we can likely find you the right help that you're seeking.

We don't publish our volunteers work schedules publicly, including on the boards, including because for some, like Sofi, they don't have the same hours from week to week.

What kind of help are you looking for from us?
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Well I guess I could talk to anybody is there anyone who might specialize in like kink education and stuff that is what the question is about
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Re: Talk to someone

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And the reason I want to use chat is because my question is personal I could talk at 250
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Re: Talk to someone

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Thanks.

While we often won't use "kink" as a framework for things here -- human sexuality is so diverse, that the idea that there are "normal" ways of being sexual and "kinky" ways is just so antiquated and arbitrary it's often not useful, informative or sound -- anyone here can talk with you about things people usually put under that umbrella, like BDSM, impact play, role play and more.

We have a chat scheduled today with several staff from 3-6 CST. We can also talk about any of this right here on the boards, since you're anonymous on here.
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Re: Talk to someone

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Ok thanks and you promise it is confidential here
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Well who would be the best to talk to about fetish or bdsm
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We take our users privacy and confidentiality very seriously, and have been for 26 years. You're safe in any of our services.

If you come into chat at 3 today, whichever staff person feels most capable with your question will talk with you. If you don't want to wait, you can post your questions on the boards and I'm happy to tend to them myself as I can, but as with chat, if I am not around, whoever is that feels qualified to talk about what you've brought up will pick it up as needed.
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Re: Talk to someone

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Ok thanks
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How will the chat work is there a time period and what will they ask me
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Re: Talk to someone

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How will it work
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Re: Talk to someone

Unread post by Heather »

Laney, you can find out about chat and how it works here: https://www.scarleteen.com/ask/live-chat

No one can tell you in advance what anyone will ask you because we don't know what you want to talk about.
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Re: Talk to someone

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Will the chat be open today
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Re: Talk to someone

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Hi Laney,

We do not have a scheduled chat time open today. If you don’t want to wait, you can post your question on the boards and we can assist you here. Is that something you’re open to doing?
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Re: Talk to someone

Unread post by Laney »

So no one expect staff can see this topic right
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Re: Talk to someone

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Hey, Laney. We were available for you in chat yesterday, but it doesn't look like you showed. There isn't going to be chat today or likely again until next week.

We can talk with you here. No, other people besides staff see board posts, but if you are using a handle that isn't your name, no one knows that it is you. If you didn't notice the note in registration not to use your first name and did, you can change your username on the boards by accessing the user control panel in the top right of the boards here, where you seeyour current username in red.

I do want to ask you to please try and limit quick one or two word posts here on the boards. Instead, please take some time to think about what you want to ask in a bigger way, ask that, then please wait for us to answer. Thanks.
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Re: Talk to someone

Unread post by Laney »

Ok so I am 17 living with my parents and I want to try a kink sorry for using that word the kink is abdl and I want to ask is it ok to do a kink at my age and it would be on my own not with anyone else and should I ask my parents if I can do or what that is my question
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Re: Talk to someone

Unread post by Heather »

Happy to help with this.

So see, this is actually a perfect example of why the word kink isn't often helpful. Because I don't know what you're asking about. Just like if you said, "I want to know if it's okay for me to eat a food" without telling me WHAT food, I just don't have the information I need to help you here.

You seem to be asking if it's okay to do something sexual by yourself. But I need to know what that thing is to help you answer that for yourself.
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Re: Talk to someone

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It is abdl
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