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sorry about this subject

Unread post by julesjules99 »

I'm really sorry for the things I'm gonna share but I have no place to go and someone told me about here

I maybe not the kind of person you help and sorry to ask im not a good person snd sorry to ask

I think I'm prego and i can't have a baby

you know I'm sorry but will everyone read my post? I'm not really a good person and I don't want you to hate me but I need to know if I can get help with this I mean the baby thing

I didnt meant it but I can't have it I'm sorry

I'm really not a gooodperson so if i can't ask thing here i understand<

sorry
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Hi Julesjules99, welcome to the boards!

You don’t need to apologize, and we don’t hate you. You haven’t done anything wrong by coming here, and this is exactly the sort of problem we can help with.

If I may ask, what makes you think that you are pregnant? Have you taken a pregnancy test to confirm this? Also, why are you worried that you are not a good person?
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I also just want to make sure that you know, julesjules, that we support people in all the decisions a person can make with a pregnancy here, and consider all of those choices equally valid and good, absolutely including abortion. We don't believe that any of the possible options there is to choose with pregnancy makes someone a good or a bad person. <3
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thanks for the answer yes I'm sure I'm prego cus took 3 test from a box
I can't have a baby and I can't tell anyone cus I be in so much trouble
I need to work and I can do that like this I think I was being careful but I messed up sorry I'm just really scare
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Hi there Julesjules,

There’s no need to apologize to us. I know this can be scary, and I want you to know you’re not alone, and we’re here for you.

If the pregnancy tests were positive, it’ll be helpful to visit a doctor who can confirm these tests and discuss options with you. I hear you say you can’t tell anyone — is there anyone trusted that can help you get to see a medical professional?
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no I can't tell anyone cus I be in so real trouble
is there anything I can do at home to not have the baby? I'm sorry you probably think I'm a horrible person
is it possible to say something but not everyone see it?
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I don’t think you’re a horrible person at all. If you do not want to continue the pregnancy, that is your choice and your right and nobody here will think or tell you anything otherwise. It is possible to access a self-managed medical abortion at home. Is that something you want to consider?

I want to link you to this article first, How To Access A Safe, Self-Managed Medical Abortion. Could you read through this article and let me know what you think about the process, if there’s any concerns you have with that option?

I hear you, too, that you don’t want to tell anyone because you’re worried you would get in trouble. Do you have a friend or anyone who wouldn’t get you in trouble that you could have as a buddy through this process? It can be really helpful if you can have someone with you, who can help you access medical care too.
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Hi Jules,

I’ve deleted the comment as requested, but I just wanted you to know you haven’t done anything wrong by sharing your experience here. You’re not in trouble at all, you’re okay here.

With regard to the work situation you mentioned, is somebody in your life making you do that? Nobody should be forced to do things they don’t want to do like that; I ask because I want to check on your safety. <3
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I really don't wanna get in trouble nobody is really forcing me I do it because I have to
I need to pay for something
how do you get the pills?
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You aren’t in trouble, and nobody here will get you in trouble. For pills, here are two websites to look at:

I Need An A — this site has options counseling, and can help you learn about the process of medical abortion
Plan C — this is where you can find medical abortion pills online

Going through those, do you have any questions, or would you like any support in the process?
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those pills you get in mail? what if is not safe to get them in my place?

if they know this I'm dead I shouldn't be here nither

sorry for making it complicated

I figure it out thank you you did enough
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Hi julesjules!

Don't be sorry at all for making anything complicated, life is complicated and that's what we're here for!

It doesn't sound like you're in a very safe situation all round, right?

Can I ask more about your situation, so we can find out how we can help?

I'd be happy to have that conversation in our chat service if that'd feel more private for you?
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Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You
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its not always bad
its just hard to talk about it where everyone will see it
if there's dm or private messages?
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If you go here: Ask For Help (or anywhere on our site since I turned chat on) you can click the chat bubble and I will pick up your chat and we can talk there.

The chat bubble is a red circle in the bottom right corner of the page which says "Chat is open"
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