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How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2025 2:09 am
by DestinedJenna
Ive found i have been doing it 4-5 times a day lately, wondering if thats bad or not?

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Tue Apr 01, 2025 8:55 am
by KierC
Hi DestinedJenna!

Here, we refrain from describing masturbation as bad or wrong, as it is normal and healthy to masturbate, even if you’re doing it frequently. The most important part is making sure what you’re doing feels good and right for you. With that in mind, do you feel like the amount you masturbate works for you and makes you feel good, or are you having some feeling of distress or compulsivity surrounding it?

I also want to quote this article we have on masturbation, Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation:
It’s common, when masturbating is or feels new to you, to perhaps want to spend a lot of time doing it, just like when you find a band you really love, and want to listen to their latest song over and over in an endless, hypnotic loop. For some, it might start to feel a little compulsive or out of control—like if you find yourself masturbating in places that aren’t all that private, or find that your masturbation habits are starting to interrupt or intrude upon other parts of your life.
Generally, it’s a pretty simple formula: Is masturbation keeping you from doing other things you enjoy, like being with friends or partners, participating in sports, hobbies, goals, or interests? Is it interfering with your responsibilities (schoolwork, family duties, chores, or a job)? Is it infringing upon your health (keeping you up nights, keeping you from eating properly), causing any sort of injury (such as sore, swollen, raw, blistered, or chafed skin), or creating emotional conflict or distress for you? If it’s doing any of those things, then it’s probably time to cut back or ask for help (a mental healthcare provider⁠ can help, or you can just talk to anyone you trust and respect with something sensitive and loaded like this). If it’s not, and it feels good to you, don’t sweat it. There’s no “right” amount of masturbation just like there’s no “right” amount of sex with partners: it’s all about what just feels and is right for you.
How does that all sound to you?

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2025 12:39 am
by DestinedJenna
Hi thank you so much for your response! It does sometimes feel compulsory, it definitely doesnt feel bad really good thats probably why im doing it so much, sometimes it does interfere with my tasks for the day

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2025 9:42 am
by Jacob
Glad we could be helpful, and also glad that masturbation has mostly been feeling good.

I can see how it might interfere with some daily tasks, but it's also true that in many ways our lives are oriented towards school and work, so we don't make a huge amount of time for things that make us feel good. So that when we do pursue those things it almost always feels like it's coming at the expense of something else.

I wonder if giving yourself some "masturbation time" in your schedule could be helpful?

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2025 2:53 am
by DestinedJenna
I could try its been around 5-6 hours a day lately ill try scheduling it obviously a little less and see if i can stick to it!

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Tue Apr 08, 2025 7:06 am
by Jacob
Good plan!

That also says that you currently have 5-6 hours a day of time and energy for this, which will not always be the case. So I also think you can trust that when other priorities come into your life you will probably just adjust like most people do, but for now, if nothing about it actually feels bad, then why not, you know?

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2025 6:48 pm
by DestinedJenna
Yeah the scheduling less has not been helping lol. But true its not necessarily getting in the way of life

Re: How much masturbating is too much?

Posted: Mon Apr 14, 2025 9:38 am
by Heather
I will say this: if we have time for masturbation 4-5 times a day, for many many hours in the day, it also may just be that our lives, on the whole, are missing some things that might make them feel fuller and more rewarding.

So, if you're concerned about this, how about looking at what other things could be taking up some of this time and energy that you want or are interested in, things like relationships with other people -- be those platonic friendships, family, or sexual or romantic relationships -- things like your other passions or interests in life, school, other things you can do with your body...?