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Hi! I have been trying to date a girl and we are discussing our favorite things to do for sex. She likes fingering, but I have pretty short fingers and I am worried I won't be able to reach her g-spot or won't be able to pleasure her the way she needs with short fingers. Any suggestions? Anyone have the same problem? What did you do to fix it?

Hello Kiwicreator, welcome to the boards!

I wouldn’t assume you won’t be able to finger your partner just yet. Try it, and ask for her guidance on what feels good. When it comes to insertion, most of the sensory nerve endings in the vagina are present in the first third of the canal - you’ll probably be able to reach that. You could also experiment with positions to see which ones give you the most depth/are the most pleasurable. And of course, you’ll be able to reach all the pleasurable areas on the vulva anyway.

If you end up needing a bit more length, you could try using a toy. This doesn’t mean there is a deficit of any kind on your part. Your body being how it is, is not a problem - many people use toys even if they can reach with their fingers, because toys are often pleasurable in their own right.

Short fingers aren't a problem. You can still totally pleasure her. The G-spot is often within the first third of the vaginal canal, so you'll likely be able to reach it. Try different positions to find what works best for depth, and communicate with her to figure out what feels good. If you want to go deeper, you can also try using a toy, lots of people do, and it can add extra fun without it being about any 'shortcoming.'

I want to echo this and also make clear that on top of g-spot and the other most sensitive parts of the vagina being towards the front, the vagina is also not a long canal. When nothing is inside of it, it’s only usually about 3-4 inches long.

It can stretch to longer than that when a person is aroused and to accommodate something inside of it, but you’re really not going to have the issues you are imagining you are here. It may be that you encounter a partner who wants a different kind of sensation than anyone’s fingers can provide, but like Jenifer and Latha mentioned, that’s one of the many things toys can be for!