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Pregnancy Risk Clarification
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Pregnancy Risk Clarification
Hi all.
I have a clarification question about the pregnancy risk chart. My boyfriend and I participate in oral and clothed grinding but do not have sexual intercourse, anal or vaginal. We both try and keep boxers/panties on at all times as an extra barrier of protection - recently, however, we were both naked. He didn't ejaculate on or near my vulva/vagina. My question is about the risk regarding direct genital contact/rubbing. On the "Can I Get Pregnant or an STI" page, you indicate that there is a moderate risk for genital rubbing. Because my boyfriend and I don't rub genitals together while naked, does genital contact/rubbing include contact that may happen while we're switching positions? I want to be sure I understand what my risk may or may not have been if it was accidental/for a couple seconds/etc. I'm also a bit confused because on the "pregnancy scare, start here" page on your message board, you indicate there's a risk if there was genital rubbing/direct contact with ejaculate, but doesn't indicate pre-ejaculate. Again, I don't mean to be nit-picky, I'm just trying to understand.
Any clarification would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much.
I have a clarification question about the pregnancy risk chart. My boyfriend and I participate in oral and clothed grinding but do not have sexual intercourse, anal or vaginal. We both try and keep boxers/panties on at all times as an extra barrier of protection - recently, however, we were both naked. He didn't ejaculate on or near my vulva/vagina. My question is about the risk regarding direct genital contact/rubbing. On the "Can I Get Pregnant or an STI" page, you indicate that there is a moderate risk for genital rubbing. Because my boyfriend and I don't rub genitals together while naked, does genital contact/rubbing include contact that may happen while we're switching positions? I want to be sure I understand what my risk may or may not have been if it was accidental/for a couple seconds/etc. I'm also a bit confused because on the "pregnancy scare, start here" page on your message board, you indicate there's a risk if there was genital rubbing/direct contact with ejaculate, but doesn't indicate pre-ejaculate. Again, I don't mean to be nit-picky, I'm just trying to understand.
Any clarification would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much.
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Re: Pregnancy Risk Clarification
When we talk about that, we mean people engaging in the kind of sex where they are intentionally rubbing genitals directly together.
We also account for all fluids that can be oart of any of the activities we list on that page.
We also account for all fluids that can be oart of any of the activities we list on that page.
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Re: Pregnancy Risk Clarification
Hi Heather,
Thanks for the quick reply and for your clarification. I'd like to clarify one last time - so since we don't "intentionally" participate in genital to genital contact, should I still consider this to be a risk? I know it's tough to tell for sure because there are so many variables. I would just like to understand better for now and the future.
Thanks again!
-R
Thanks for the quick reply and for your clarification. I'd like to clarify one last time - so since we don't "intentionally" participate in genital to genital contact, should I still consider this to be a risk? I know it's tough to tell for sure because there are so many variables. I would just like to understand better for now and the future.
Thanks again!
-R
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Re: Pregnancy Risk Clarification
Genitals just kind of super-briefly brushing by in passing, which is what it sounds like you are asking about, would not be included here.
But for sure, if and when everyone's pants are off, then it is time to address safer sex and contraception, so, for instance, if the oral sex has been unprotected, I would address that, and talk about how you both feel about the STI risks involved. And if you would feel more comfortable with a condom being on in case of genital-to-genital contact, that would then cover that base, too.
But for sure, if and when everyone's pants are off, then it is time to address safer sex and contraception, so, for instance, if the oral sex has been unprotected, I would address that, and talk about how you both feel about the STI risks involved. And if you would feel more comfortable with a condom being on in case of genital-to-genital contact, that would then cover that base, too.
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead
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Re: Pregnancy Risk Clarification
Great.
Thank you, Heather! And thanks for the fantastic information on this site. It's great to have a safe and knowledgeable community I can trust.
Thank you, Heather! And thanks for the fantastic information on this site. It's great to have a safe and knowledgeable community I can trust.
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Re: Pregnancy Risk Clarification
So glad you feel that way!
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead
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