i can’t get more than 1 finger in

[Emilyluvsqueen]

Hi! i’m 17 and have been masturbating for like 10 years and still don’t really have a clue what i’m doing tbh. i’ve got a method but i want to explore using my fingers and i can only get 1 finger in, i can get 2 in but its so tight i can feel my walls if that makes sense? its so uncomfortable and no matter how turned on i am, it feels so bad to have 2 fingers in. i’m just worried that this means in the future ill struggle with penetration? is this true or am i just winding myself up?

[Heather]

Welcome to the boards, Emily.

First up, the thing to lead with with any kind of sex, be it masturbation or with a partner, is pleasure. In other words, rather than trying to do what you think you should do, or that other people do, or you think prepares you in some way for other sex later, you want to lead with what feels good for you right now. So, in choosing to try and insert your fingers into your vaginal opening: is that because that's what feels good for you, or is that because that's what you think you should do?

I do also want to say that the vagina is always a closed tube that only ever gets as open as what is inside of it, so no matter what is inside the vagina, the walls of the vagina will always be pressing against it. That's no reason for worry, that's how that anatomy just is!