is this normal?

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ashes to ashes
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is this normal?

Unread post by ashes to ashes »

sometimes i imagine people (not really anyone i know, just celebrities/famous people/fictional characters and such) like...doing sexual things to me, you know? like fantasies? and i don't actually do it very often, maybe like once a month or so? i don't know, it's kind of a recent thing- but it just happened recently and i just got so overwhelmed because i'm feeling all these things and thinking all these things and it's kind of terrifying, to be honest. and i hadn't thought about this before, but now i'm really worried that it's weird to be thinking about stuff like this. and the fantasy things are kind of really detailed, too, and i don't know if that's normal?? and i still feel so much like i'm so young still. like i'm only sixteen. and i'm scared that this is really weird for a sixteen-year-old to be thinking and feeling these things and i just...i want? to have sex?? i think?? and i don't know if that's normal for a sixteen-year old?? so i'm just. wondering, i suppose.
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Re: is this normal?

Unread post by Latha »

Hello and welcome, ashes to ashes!

Let me assure you, it is perfectly alright to want to have sex and to have fantasies that involve other people. Many, many people your age have felt this way before, and there is nothing weird or abnormal about it.

Would you like to talk about what has made this so overwhelming? Is it how new it is, or is it a sense that you shouldn’t think about sex?
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