Scarleteen

Hello, lately with my new partner, every time he has me in a bent over position with him behind me and I move to get out of the position, I queef.

I know this is a normal thing to happen but it still makes me embarrassed just because of the sound. I was wondering if there is any way to not make that noise anymore or to lessen it.

Hi Cookie101,

I want to ask first, besides feeling uncomfortable with the sound, how else do you feel about both the position and sex with your partner in general?

I am glad that you know it is normal. Embarrassing experiences during sex is also super normal, and it can be nice to laugh or joke about these things with a partner you trust. You might know this already, but "queefing" happens when air has been pushed into the vaginal canal, and then it is released. There is no way to totally stop our bodies from making noises we don't like. It's part of life and therefore sex! But, if there is very quick in-and-out (with a toy, fingers, penis) more air is often pushed in. You might try asking for a slower pace and see how that feels.

I like the position and sex with my partner. He doesn’t care that I do queef it’s just a thing that bugs me. I’m unsure how to not get embarrassed about it. Should I just see if the more we have sex the more I’ll get used to it?

Embarrassment isn't something we can necessarily just switch off, but I think knowing there is nothing wrong/weird/gross about it helps, as well as a bit of humor if that feels okay to you! I bet you'll find that with repetition, it won't feel like as big of a deal.