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So I don't know if that's a big deal or not. (For context I'm a trans guy).
A few months back I had sex for the first time, with my now, ex-boyfriend and there was a genital contact between us, not piv or anything like that, just rubbing for a few minutes.
But the problem is that we didn't use any protection and I'm worried if I should get tested for STIs or not.
From what I know, my ex just had sex with his ex-girlfriend once and I don't show any symptoms of infection or anything like that. I know what we did was irresponsible, but just how badly I messed up?

Hi there Zmora, welcome to the boards!

I appreciate how careful and responsible you're being in all this and acknowledging that you want to be safer from now on, that's great. When we have direct genital contact with someone there's a risk of STI, but since it was only a few minutes and that was the extent of it, I wouldn't lose sleep over it. I would, however, get tested just to be safe - this is something that's good to do when you're sexually active even if you had used a condom or other barrier, again, out of safety.

I also want to note that some STIs can be asymptomatic so not showing any symptoms doesn't mean much, and also, sometimes an infection doesn't show up for weeks or even months on a test. So since it's been a few months, this could be a good time to get tested. You didn't mess up and you shouldn't stress too much over this, but treat it as the beginning of a safer sex protocol which includes routine testing