How to make a guy cum, advice on learning to ride d, and give a good bj

[shyone9838]

I’m very shy But My desire for sex is above normal rn. But i find i lose all my confidence in bed even after seein someone for 2 years i can’t make eye contact, i get scared to suck it and i don’t know how to ride. I want to please him. Please someone who was at the same spot as me give me some good advice. I want to be great in bed and satisfy greatly. SOS

[shyone9838]

I’m 21 and i have had My share of hookups but i realize that i never do any of the work and now I’m scared to do anything to please the guy because i get self conscious on how i look or i think too much on if i mess up or it won’t be good for him. And everytime i get put on top i freeze because i don’t know how to move my butt or hips. And then i the eye contact omg i seriously turn the other way. Its not like i think I’m ugly but i am self conscious of my under profile. How do i get out of this box becuase i have so much desire but i can’t seem to do it when it comes down to it and I’m tired of feeling Shame. I want to leave my hookups feeling confident i have pleased them. What do i do because i fantisize about pleasing men in bed and all that it’s so muah paradise in my head. But when one gets put in front of me i act brand new like it’s not rocket science to give a bj. Please someone help me what do i do

[Latha]

Hi there, Shyone9838--welcome to the boards! I hope it is alright that I combined your posts. They have similar themes, so I think it would help to discuss both in the same place.

We can't tell you exactly what you should do with your partner--everyone is different, so we don't know what would feel good for the two of you. However, we would be happy to advise on how you could learn about what about what feels pleasurable with your partner(s), and talk about how you might feel better about the shame and self-consciousness you've noticed.

My desire for sex is above normal rn.

It is okay if your desire for sex is more that what is usual for you, but just in case, I want assure you that it isn't wrong to want sex, and you don't have to worry about wanting sex too much.

To start, I have a few questions that I'd like to ask to get a better sense of how you've been feeling:

• Could you say a little more about what it is about oral sex and eye contact that makes you feel scared? Is eye contact uncomfortable for you outside of sex?

• You've mentioned that you have had hookups, and that you've been seeing someone for two years. Have you felt satisfied in the sexual interactions you've had with your partners?

I also have a request: You profile says that you are 25 years old, but your post here says that you are 21. Could you update your profile to the correct age and let us know?

[shyone9838]

Hello im looking on the page and how can i update the age thing ? And to answer your question about the eye contact. I’ve noticed whenever I like someone or if we both know we like each other it’s like I become aware that he sees me and I seriously can’t look at the sneaky link of 2 years in the eye even when I had my bf it was still a. Little difficult to hold eye contact in bed and I was comfortable around him. So idk what I need to tell myself or what to do when it comes to eye contact bcuz ik guys love that in bed or even I want to talk dirty out loud but I can’t because I can’t take myself seriously since i never talked outloud so it would be new and maybe he will laugh at me or I’ll sound funny and I ruin the moment of sexiness. So much self doubt like I need to step into that confidence version who makes eye contact, takes control, and visibly enjoys what she’s doing. Because I love sex and I love the idea of pleasing a man and havin control. So for oral it’s scary because for the 2 year SL I never suck his dick and it’s not like it be my first time giving a BL. Over the years I became more shy and self aware so I’m always in perform mode rather than being in the moment and just doing as I please. Also I’m insecure about my forehead and I don’t want him to put his hand on my big ahh head and I just want to know good techniques on how to give good head, and how I can practice riding. I’m thinking of purchasing a dildo so I can practice at home. Any advice ? SOS

[shyone9838]

Yes I have enjyoed all my hookups but the same thing remains. I leave them knowing I haven’t done shit. But I would at least attempt to give Head to some of my partners. But the guy of 2year I want to give him the head since I literally never do. And I know he wants it so I want to become more dominant and leave hookups feel great since I know I have done well and can please a man. Cus how am I gonna keep a husband if I can’t even be good in bed.

[lilikoi]

Hi shyone9838,

Using your correct birthday information is one of our user agreements for our website. This is an important feature to make sure that our website and content is accessible to everyone it is appropriate for. Before we can respond to your posts, please follow these steps to update your age so that it is accurate.

1) Scroll to the top of the message boards page and make sure you are logged in
2) Click on your username in the top right corner
3) Click on "Profile"
4) On the new page with your profile information, click on "Edit profile"
5) Fill in the birthday information with your correct birthday
6) Click "Submit"