Looking to start bdsm but cant find a place to get a partner.

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Aku
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Looking to start bdsm but cant find a place to get a partner.

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So my name is Aku im 19 and have been looking for places near me that I can go to that do things like a bdsm club or something like that. Where I can explore bdsm and find myself basically.
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Re: Looking to start bdsm but cant find a place to get a partner.

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Hi there, Aku. This isn't something that we can help you with: finding local sex/play gatherings is simply outside our abilities and scope. Your best bet is to go on social media and follow local BDSM community members and see if they ever list anything like munches (casual lunch gatherings for people interested in BDSM to met each other, ask questions or build community) or other community gatherings.
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