Questioning my pronouns

[SilverFalcon92]

I been questioning my pronouns for the past few days I don’t really feel like a woman nor a man and I’ll be honest with you I don’t wanna be label as any gender I feel like I have traits for woman and man like for a woman i like to get my manicure and pedicure I like getting my nails painted as well, I like to wear skirts especially pleated skirt, fishnets, I want a lot of piercings such as my septum, belly piercings, industrial piercing etc, I like to have a skin care routine and I also like to shave all my body hair, long hair and there much more and for the man side I like having a beard, independent, hard working, having tough skin stuff like that for example I can keep going on about them but what I am sharing is I don’t consider myself to be either gender because there’s both gender traits that I like.

[char]

Hi SilverFalcon92! That's completely understandable--we can feel drawn towards things that are stereotypically labeled as "feminine" or "masculine" regardless of our own gender identity. The things you've described can even be seen as neither "feminine" or "masculine," too--they can just stand on their own. You don't have to label yourself as a man or woman if you think that doesn't fit you. Do you think there are labels you've learned that you want to use, or would you rather not describe your gender identity with anything?

[SilverFalcon92]

Hey Char, thanks for responding to my post. That really means a lot and one label I did learn they/them, non-binary or gender, it’s pretty much people saying they don’t identify themselves as either gender nor they can be multiple genders, but for me, I don’t consider myself a gender. My whole life, I have grown up as a guy, since I was born with a penis and not a vagina or boobs, unfortunately, but I learn that having a penis doesn’t determine my gender at all and there are other symptoms. But now I don’t feel drawn to the stereotype or being labeled as feminine and masculine.

[sesmith]

Chiming in here to add that Heather's Genderpalooza article has a lot of great information about gender identity that may speak to some of the things you are thinking about!

Genderpalooza! A Sex & Gender Primer