Dear Scarleteen staff!
I'd like to apologize to you.
In a very old thread (Is sex inherently goal-oriented?), I said some REALLY WRONG things about you and your work. The reason being, is that I was figuring stuff out, and people have said and written some "ugly" things about sex while claiming to have the same values as you. This was a mistargeted vent of frustration.
Since I now hold the answers (the good and realistic) answers thanks to you (other convos with other people), and other ACTUALLY ethical sources, I'd like to thank you for your help, and your work. Your navigation around themes like comfort, consent, experimentation and stereotypes are honourable.
I'll soon be deactivating my account here out of respect with a hint of shame. And if there is an opportunity to delete that said conversation I quoted, that would be delightful, as I'm extremely embarrased of myself.
Sincerely,
MistahCFS
An apology.
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Heather
- scarleteen founder & director
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- Location: Chicago
Re: An apology.
Hi there, MistahCFS.
I really appreciate this, thank you, but there's also no need to beat yourself up about it or feel ashamed. Talking with young people about very loaded and personal topics as we do means that things like this happen with some regularity, and we do truly understand. We know it often takes time for younger people (heck, for all people!) to learn how to manage emotions and to talk with others about sensitive issues, and that because of the time of life we tend to meet people at here, we're going to have tense interactions sometimes. It's okay.
Because it's important for us as an organization to keep records of all the interactions we have with our users in direct services, user accounts that were ever active can't be deleted or deactivated, and we also do not delete posts, but if you like, we can move that thread to an area of the boards only staff can see. Just let me know if so and I will take care of that for you.
Beyond that, if you no longer want to use your account all you need to do is stop using it. We don't email our users or otherwise use contact information you have shared with us here, so if you don't use your account, it will lie dormant. <3
I really appreciate this, thank you, but there's also no need to beat yourself up about it or feel ashamed. Talking with young people about very loaded and personal topics as we do means that things like this happen with some regularity, and we do truly understand. We know it often takes time for younger people (heck, for all people!) to learn how to manage emotions and to talk with others about sensitive issues, and that because of the time of life we tend to meet people at here, we're going to have tense interactions sometimes. It's okay.
Because it's important for us as an organization to keep records of all the interactions we have with our users in direct services, user accounts that were ever active can't be deleted or deactivated, and we also do not delete posts, but if you like, we can move that thread to an area of the boards only staff can see. Just let me know if so and I will take care of that for you.
Beyond that, if you no longer want to use your account all you need to do is stop using it. We don't email our users or otherwise use contact information you have shared with us here, so if you don't use your account, it will lie dormant. <3
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