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I wanna ask for some tips so how do I ask somebody that I’ll want someone who’s freaky as me? When it comes to seeing a potential relationship with them I just feel like I’ll make them uncomfortable being honest with my true intentions it’s not like I want only sex to be part of the relationship but I sure want that to be apart of the relationship so what should I do?

Hi SilverFalcon,

By "freaky," do you mean you're looking for someone who's interested in a sexual relationship in general, or are you talking about more "unconventional" fantasies? Regardless of the answer, I think the best way to ask them is to be straightforward: ask them if they'd enjoy (insert sexual act here) or if they want to incorporate sex into their relationship. If you're using an online platform (like social media or dating apps), it's possible for you to specify that you're looking for someone who you can have a sexual relationship with. Also, since sex is something intimate for a lot of people, you may want to consider talking about other things first and see if you click with them before asking about sex. I think you'll find this article about communicating your needs useful: Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner

I'd also like to assure you that romantic, platonic, or not, a relationship with sex in it isn't going to be inherently emotionless or more "shallow." It depends on what you and your potential partner are looking for. If someone isn't looking for sex in their relationship, then that person isn't going to be a good match for you--and that's okay. I

How does hearing all of this make you feel?

Thank you it made me feel better I just hope they don’t seen me as a lustful person that just want sex. I’ll take a look at the article (it’s really long) but I hope it can go into more detail about it.