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I'm tired of waiting until I could date or go outside without having my parents worry about my location.

I don't know where to go to meet other queer people in my country. I can't go in real life to pride and it's almost pride month. I met someone online in my country I think they're great but I lost contact with them . Couldn't stop thinking about them but I don't know where else or what else to do. I looked at and read other experiences online but I wish I could do more. And online giving me anxiety every time some discourse happens I get mix messages.

I feel dumb and I'm tired of trying to figure myself out.
Do I really have to date someone for real to know if I'm bi. Because I feel bi I guess?? I just don't want to wait for experience.

And how does sexual attraction actually work? Do people just see someone and go wow I want to have sex with this person because I think this person hot. I feel like I rather have a sexual relationship with close friends because that feel more comfortable.

I know fantasy and stuff in general are not real but like I just have a feeling.

Hi there! I hear you're struggling to meet people in real life that you might want to potentially date. Since you're an adult you could try some of the apps that are out there, but of course, I'll suggest being really careful with those (just like any other way to meet people online). My main advice would be to join some clubs or groups of things you're interested in. There's things like running/walking groups, board/video game clubs, book clubs, etc. You can search for them in your area and see what comes up. How does that sound?

As far as sexual attraction, it can feel a bit different for everyone. For some, it does feel like a desire to have sex with the person. However, a lot of folks don't necessarily feel it that way, and it's more of just a feeling like you want to be near them, get to know them more, and have intimacy with them. And no, you don't have to date someone to know if you're bi - if you experience attraction, whether it's sexual or romantic, for people of different genders...that's good enough. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone!

I could try the apps but my phone not working I'm using my mom phone to text until I get a new one.

Okay, how about in-person groups or clubs? Like I said, that's an even better option than online, in my opinion.