Scarleteen

hey! this is my first post on here lol. So basically i have been masturbating for a long time by rubbing a pillow, the thing is when i finally feel aroused and rub against it it’s like a matter of about 20 seconds before i feel nothing else. I have tried fingering but i don’t really feel anything, idk if im doing it wrong, but i would rlly like to enjoy self pleasure more than said twenty seconds

Hello and welcome to the boards, Heyhihello!

I wouldn't say you are doing anything wrong, because when it comes to pleasure, there isn't a single right way to go about things. For that reason, there also isn't a single solution we can recommend, but we can chat about what is happening and what you could try.

To start, I have a few questions. You've said a little about the kinds of masturbation that you've tried. Learning to feel pleasure can be about exploring different techniques or kinds of physical stimulation, but it is also so much about what happens in the mind. Can you tell us a bit about your mental state, leading up to/during/after self-pleasure? Would you say it is easy to become aroused and stay aroused? Do you fantasize or focus on your body, or do you have thoughts about other subjects?

Hey!! I'm new too & unfortunately I don't have much advice for you but I do wanna say

I have the exact same problem you are not alone!!! It's reassuring to see that someone else deals with this because I was worried about it. goodluck to us both lol