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you see, my mom isn't all that much sex positive. i do not know how to ask her for a vibrator or even talk to her about it in a way she'll find appropiate

i thought about just explaining it would be healthy for me, but the more i think about it, i just think she'll get me in trouble just for asking. i'm wondering if i should just ask anyways, but the more important question is how exactly can i ask her for one?

things about my mom:
-she understands i have a high sex drive, but she doesn't give me privacy (i can't lock my door even when i want to masturbate)
-even though she doesn't really give me all that much privacy, i am slowly gaining more privacy as i get older
-i am pretty sure she would be upset if i did have a vibrator, but i dont think she would make me throw it away
-she is pretty unpredictable when it comes to this stuff, as i do not regularly talk to her about my sexual health (which if it's a good idea, i'll try to)

how exactly can i somehow convince her that a vibrator is a good idea? what are the steps i can take? (first time posting here, and i definitely will have more questions but this is my only question for now )

Hey apureprincess, welcome to the boards. Glad you're here!

It sounds like your mother has been open towards discussing some parts of your sexuality, but have not given you more space for privacy, which hasn't been the greatest for you. Have you been able to share with her how you feel about the lack of privacy? If you have, how was her reaction? I am asking this because I think it's related to how likely will she allow you to get a vibrator; if her response wasn't the most pleasant, asking for a vibrator could be challenging. I also wonder if her understanding of your higher sexual desire comes from her own observation or something you've told her.

As for the vibrator itself, in the meantime, I think it would be helpful to look up online which one(s) would be the best fit for you, and make a short list. That way, if your mom asked you what kind of vibrator you need, you'd have an answer ready. Have you done that? DIY vibrators can also be an option for you. We have these articles about vibrators and DIY sex toys you can check out:
- Our "How to Play with Toys" series
- D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition