I am a 17 year old white male. I don't know if this matters but I'm 7.8" long and 5.7" girth, my testicles I think are average but I think they're kinda small.
Anyway I'm here because I've only had sex with one person, my ex boyfriend. We've had sex twice ( both anal and oral) and haven't been able to ejaculate. We've had sex for hours and I still couldn't. He was worried he was the reason but I told him he wasn't. I can cum perfectly fine when masturbating so why can't I during sex.
Unable to ejaculate during sex
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Acceptablefruit
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Re: Unable to ejaculate during sex
Hi Acceptablefruit, welcome to the boards.
When you and your boyfriend have sex, are you relaxed and just going with the flow or is there some pressure you might be putting on yourself around sex? I ask because our primary sex organ is our brain, so arousal and orgasm start there. Because of this, too, the size of your genitalia doesn’t matter. When we add pressure by setting goals such as needing to orgasm, it actually makes it harder to orgasm. Ideally, the measure of “successful” sex is how much pleasure you felt, not whether you had an orgasm or ejaculated or not. What if you started focusing more just on pleasure and setting orgasm aside?
When you and your boyfriend have sex, are you relaxed and just going with the flow or is there some pressure you might be putting on yourself around sex? I ask because our primary sex organ is our brain, so arousal and orgasm start there. Because of this, too, the size of your genitalia doesn’t matter. When we add pressure by setting goals such as needing to orgasm, it actually makes it harder to orgasm. Ideally, the measure of “successful” sex is how much pleasure you felt, not whether you had an orgasm or ejaculated or not. What if you started focusing more just on pleasure and setting orgasm aside?
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