How to do a different self pleasuring method

[amelialovesparm]

So I’ve been crossing my legs laying down as a method since I was like 12 and it always felt so good, but ive also been trying to do the typical way of self pleasuring myself such as fingering and it doesn’t seem to work. I’m not sure if I’m either doing it wrong or something so I would appreciate some tips on how to make it feel good when you finger yourslelf

[KierC]

Hi Amelia, and welcome to the boards!

So you know, there’s nothing wrong or atypical about how you currently masturbate. People masturbate in lots of different ways and there’s not one “right” or more normal way to do it.

But if you’re interested in trying vaginal insertion there are certainly ways to make it more pleasurable and to avoid any pain or discomfort:

1. Make sure you’re only trying to insert anything when you’re already relaxed and aroused. This makes sure you’re not tense, which can often contribute to pain.

2. Use plenty of lube! This reduces friction and makes insertion much more comfortable.

3. Use something small (like a single finger) when starting out and only increase the size if you feel comfortable and want to. If you feel any pain, it’s important to stop.

When you say it doesn’t seem to work, does it feel like nothing, or is it painful or uncomfortable?

[amelialovesparm]

Hi Kier!

Tysm for the tips! For me it doesn’t really feel like nothing when I finger myself because I’m just so used to doing it with my legs crossed. I’ll definitely give it a shot with those tips cuz no wonder I didn’t feel anything

[char]

Hi amelia! Good to hear that Kier's suggestion was helpful. If you'd like another reference, check out this article of ours on masturbating: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation

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