I always want to remind people that there's nothing abnormal or ridiculous about phases in life -- or even decades and decades of life -- where you feel sexual desire often or enjoy and want sex often. A lot of younger people in this era, in particular, seem to have gotten the idea that feeling strong sexual desire often is unusual or wrong, but it really isn't, and telling ourselves it is is rarely beneficial to us.
As well, having a lot of sexual desire doesn't mean a lot of orgasm. For sure, feeling desire is usually part of the picture, but it's by no means all of the picture. How and if we experience orgasm also depends on things like if what we're doing sexually on our own or with partners is actually satisfying for us, what's going on in our relationship with a partner or with ourselves, how we're generally feeling in our bodies and our minds, like how much stress we are or aren't carrying, as well as what we're focusing on. If and when people focus a lot on trying to reach orgasm, that typically has the opposite effect: it's focusing on pleasure, not orgasm, that makes it more likely sex will be satisfying and include orgasm.
Mikky asked:
With this post, I would like to know more about why you really want to do have this type of sex. Is it because your boyfriend really enjoys it?
I also think that's the right question to look at. Wanting our partners to experience pleasure too, is a good thing, but partners just won't always want to do or like the same things. So, it may be that while your boyfriend wants anal sex, it isn't something you also want for yourself -- which is just as important -- or enjoy. Part of being in a sexual partnership with someone else is understanding that we are different people who won't always want or like the same things, and learning to get good at accepting it easily and without it being a big deal when we want to do something our partners just aren't into. Same goes for being okay ourselves if and when a partner wants something we don't. I'm sure you two can find other things you're both excited about if this isn't it, which it sounds like it isn't.
If this is something you
do want for yourself as well, not just because your boyfriend wants it, the links Mikky shared should be helpful to you. If you have more questions after reading them, we're happy to answer those for you.