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So ive been kinda in point where most of my endings doesnt seem pleasurable. Im getting weak erections - little to none and im finishing way too fast. Some times it too funny to finish when im half flaccid or half hard- cup half empty- half full way. Im kinda used to porn and im trying to cold turkey for a bit. it hard to quit but im trying to do it wihtout porn. But still erection is weak and im haivng premature ejaculation and the feeling is very minimal and not good. Im not lasting much in bed and my gf have told me that im not lasting much. Even doing phone sex by time she is aroused, i may be finished. Is there any workaround to fix this. i really wanna have a good sex life and feel good. I eat healthy, i workout on a daily basis. my stress level is kinda high perse and my sleep schedule maybe on the rut.

Also i maybe trained to finish quickly on the early days of trying out self pleasuring. So i started during the eighth grade and i can only do it while im bathing or in toilet so i had to finish quickly and i started to do so. so is this trained behaviour still acting up. Also i had one sexual encounter with my previous ex where we had oral and it all was good, even though i tried super hard to be erect and not to finish and i could hold it. By the time it was to PIV, when the head touched the entrance i came. We we tried like four or five times that day taking time to cool down and it happened all the time. I could see her being super sad but comforting for me. Can you guys please help me through this. Im 22M. Also i think i have size issues and it bothering in my mind.

Also i can seem to hold it hard and erect while trying out porn with severe novelty and higher demeaning and sensory items edgind towards brutality and im afraid somethings wrong with me

Hi there damnman123, welcome to the boards.

I can tell you're feeling frustrated about this and we're happy to talk through it with you. The first thing I'm noticing is there might be some shame around ejaculating "too quickly", so I just wanted to mention that it's not only normal and common to ejaculate within a few minutes of starting intercourse assuming you've been aroused a bit longer than that at that point, but also, it isn't a race and there isn't a right or wrong amount of time to have sex for before ejaculating.

Sex, both partnered and solo, is meant to be enjoyable and pleasurable. If you're experiencing those, there's no need to pressure yourself to last a certain amount of time before ejaculating. I hear your girlfriend has mentioned you "not lasting long enough", but something a lot of people don't realize is that intercourse is not the only type of sex. What people tend to call "foreplay", so everything from kissing and dry humping to manual and oral sex, are all still types of sex. Just because you ejaculate, doesn't mean sex has to end - there are still plenty of ways to continue having sex that will be enjoyable for both of you. Is this something you have tried, or does sex tend to end once you ejaculate?

You also mentioned having size issues that are bothering you, do you want to talk about that?