Scarleteen

Hello hello, i'm sure there's probably an article somewhere on this topic but i wanted to still ask before searching.

Sex education about safe sex and stuff is ALWAYSSS so penis centered everyone just talks about condoms condoms condoms

Can anyone give some knowledge on safe sex between 2 afab people? IS there even safe sex for afab people? Because i know we can still catch STDs or any infections but NOBODY ever talks about preventing health issues, nobody even talks about the issues THEMSELVES. It feels horrible to be sexually active while having ZERO ZERO safe sex knowledge for my kind of person.

Any info and any help is welcome!

Hey repressedmouse,

Our articles should be suitable for everyone, regardless of their body, gender identity, and sexual orientation. Not just in the sense that some of them are directed to specific kinds of people, but also in the sense that it'd be useful to learn about sexuality even if we're not the intended audience. For example, even if we don't have a penis, it'd still be helpful to learn about the penis, testes, and more, right? The same also applies to a hypothetical cisgender, heterosexual man who wants to learn more about his girlfriend's vulva and to be more mindful in their sexual relationship. Do you get what I mean? This isn't to deny the differences in how society views sexuality between folks raised as boys and folks raised as girls, but the amount of information we have on the site is researched, written, edited, and shared for everyone who needs them.

Since you mentioned this specific topic, our articles on STIs (sexually transmitted infections, which is a more respectful term compared to the stigmatizing "diseases") and safer sex should have the kind of information that applies to everyone, including folks with vulvas. Here are some of them that first come to mind. I hope they're useful!
- Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To
- What Safer Sex Isn't
- Testing, Testing: All About Getting Tested for STIs
- When, Where, and Why: Telling Your Partner You Have an STI
- The STI Files
- Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

Lastly (for now), I'd like to gently remind you that ASAB (assigned sex at birth) terminology like "AFAB" and "AMAB" can often be limiting rather than inclusive. It was first used by intersex communities to discuss the discrimination they very often face: not being informed about the differences in their sexual development and body parts as well as not being given the choice to determine what they want to do with their bodies and how they want to identify. Using it as perisex (people with "typical" sexual development and organs, regardless of gender identity) individuals take away the focus from the very people who use them to begin with. I know you mean well, and there's nothing wrong with not knowing, but I'd just like to let you know. ^^;