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Masturbation

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I’m a 16 year old male and I’m really horny a lot of the time and I really wanna masturbate but it doesn’t feel good I want masturbation toys and after I masturbate I get hard almost instantly again what do I do
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Re: Masturbation

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Hi randomteen_02,

Masturbation is all about exploring what it is we think feels good. I linked a few articles from our site which might be helpful - including one on sex toys.

Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation

D.I.Y Sex Toys: Self-Love Edition

Masturbation does need to end because of ejaculation or an orgasm. It may be that your body wants to keep going after that - and that is ok. I wonder if leading with what your body is desiring is a good next step.
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Re: Masturbation

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I’ve already read these so many times I have basically nothing to make a reusable diy sex toy let alone a single use diy sex toy I masturbated in a condom before it was so nice
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Re: Masturbation

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Ok! Sex toys are not this perfect recipe for making masturbation feel good. They are really just fun toys that we may, or may not, enjoy.

Why not masturbate with condoms more if it has felt good in the past?

What are you most looking for from us here?
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Re: Masturbation

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Advice for how to make it feel better I would do it with condoms again but I have no money and no way to get them due to having zero privacy and just a little every blue moon
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Re: Masturbation

Unread post by amber »

Alrighty! So there is no recipe or one size fits all guide to masturbation and we are not going to walk you through a how-to here. What feels good for you may feel bad to another person. That is why exploration is so important! That first article I sent listed out some specific types of touch that people often like, have you started by trying out those things?

As for condoms, there are often places where we can get them for free such as health clinics, schools, and sometimes places like libraries. That access may be something to look into.

I also wonder if the lubrication of the condom was a factor in why you were feeling good. Do you often use lubrication of any sort to masturbate?
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Re: Masturbation

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The lube felt so great but being able to see my penis when it was inside of the condom I imagined it was a vulva like in the videos and is my penis supposed to twitch like crazy
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Re: Masturbation

Unread post by Heather »

It sounds like you're asking for things that we ultimately can't help you with. You say you want toys, but you also say you don't have a way to access them or DIY toys, which just sounds like a dead end for now. You also say you enjoy masturbating using a condom, but don't have a way to access those right now, either (and again, public health clinics, school clinics, and Planned Parenthood usually have them out for people, but if you can't get to those kinds of places, there's nothing else we can really do for you around this).

Helping someone make masturbation "feel better" is just a really vague ask, because we can't know what is or isn't feeling satisfying for you, but even if we did, most of what we'd be able to share with you is that we all tend to learn -- and not just once, often adjusting over a lifetime -- what feels good with us with masturbation by simply experimenting, which it sounds like you have been doing already. Too, things feeling good usually isn't just about what we are doing with our bodies, but about our headspace, too -- so, if you feel dissatisfied, that may be something to think about, too. If privacy is an issue for you, as it can be for many people, you may also think about asking your parents for more privacy than you currently have -- you don't have to tell them why if you don't want to, either.

I don't know what you mean by "twitch like crazy," when you're asking about your genitals, but it is normal for our boies, and all their parts, to be responsive to touch, if that's what you're asking.
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