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When I try touching my clit with fingers nothing ever happens no matter which way I do it it has to be vibrating (the vibrator didnt desensitize me even before I ever used one fingers wouldnt work ) and even then when i do successfully get a build up it becomes way too much and sometimes uncomfortable very fast tho if i go too light with it it feels the same as putting it on your arm or something so I stop ive never tried to continue past that point cause idk if my body's telling me to stop or if im supposed to keep going what do u think (and ive been trying for like 5 years since hitting puberty) any ideas thanks

Finding what your body likes and thinks feels good can be a journey. Here is an article which lists some different ways people enjoy masturbating, it sounds like I'd be helpful for you to try something new -- Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation .

I wonder if it could be helpful for you to start with the vibrating sensation and then move to your hands? That may help with the intensity and allow you to explore sensations outside vibration.