Scarleteen

Hi! I'm currently in a relationship with an amazing girl. The problems are, she doesn't communicate AT ALL, she makes me feel kind of controlled, and she's not open to sexual stuff. Of course I'm not going to force her into anything, but it frustrates me. I've never actually asked , because I'm kind of scared it'll make her uncomfortable. We've kissed, made-out, and given eachother hickeys, (I gave her some on her stomach and she gave me some on my shoulder. she was scared that people would see them), but we've never gone farther and I would like to. I just need to get up the courage to introduce the topic, but how????

Hi littlecarrotboy and welcome to the boards!

I am sorry to hear that you have been struggling in your relationship. Communication is the foundation of any relationship and is therefore sooo important. What does her lack of communication look like?

Feeling controlled within a relationship is also not ok and I am sorry you are feeling this way. How does she make you feel controlled?

I do believe that it is important to work on communication and your feelings within the relationship prior to ramping up with new sexual experiences because those things need trust and communication.