21 year old virgin

[iswearimnormal]

gf who's younger then me is frustrated with me she's 19, she assumes I'm not a virgin, I know she isnt, she's very tiny at maybe 5 foot 1, 120 pounds and I'm 6 foot 5 inch 300 pounds, howevor finding eachother attractive isn't the issue, it's all on me, I'm scared I will look like a fool in front of her, that I'm not going to be capable of satisfying her, I have used my fingers to provide satisfaction twice and I was told it was half way decent but I'm so scared that I will not be able to satisfy her with my male anatomy due to size, I hate to bring it up because it's completely unrealistic but watching online porn, every male is made to be very very large, maybe I'm just use to looking at that and knowing I'm not even close, I'm not sure, maybe some advice will help from a female perspective? Maybe even a male prospective? What is she expecting? What has she had? Will I be capable of satisfaction? Will I be laughed at? she's the love of my life and I keep putting sex off so she won't leave me if I'm not able to satisfy her, someone with some perspective on this may be able to help, I am using this site for the first time after looking for help other places and just being laughed at, I can only hope this won't happen here, I hope this isn't going to get me kicked off of the site by stating this but I am 6 inches roughly and I would say about as thick as a broom handle, I hope someone can please help me understand more about my situation

[Johanna]

Welcome to Scarleteen! I hear that you feel pretty anxious and insecure. And no wonder, give what you've experienced in other places where you asked for advice. Let me assure you that no one here is going to laugh at you. I can also assure you that you are, indeed, completely normal.

One piece of advice that I can give you is simply to talk to your partner. I know that it's not exactly a 'simple' thing to do, especially for someone feeling as anxious as you do already, but being open and honest with a partner is pretty important. On top of that, you are asking us a lot of questions that only your partner can answer for you. What she likes, what sort of experiences she already has and what she is expecting from you - only our partner knows that. We cannot begin to guess.

I know you're afraid that she may leave you one you tell her that you have little or no sexual experience. However, if she truly did not want to be with someone who has no previous experience, wouldn't you rather know about that, and be free to find a partner who is a better fit for you, and is excited to share your first experiences with you?

We can talk about this more if you like, or have any specific questions.